There can be no greater sin in a relationship then to abuse the trust of the person you love. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, it’s time to take a deep breath and relax. You’ll need a clear head before you make any decisions. Figuring out if your spouse is cheating can be difficult. Hiring a private detective is an expensive but effective solution. You could call that show ‘Cheaters’ but you don’t want to have your love life torn to shreds on public television. No, finding the truth behind the lies spouted by a cheating spouse takes patience and poise. Here are a few things to consider when making a decision that could change your life.

A common tell of the cheating spouse is a new work schedule that constantly demands more time at work in situations where they can’t be reached for long periods of time. When it comes to excuses, spending extra time at the place that pays the bills is about as good as it gets. If you question the new schedule, you risk looking jealous and untrusting, but if you turn a blind eye, you could end up in a situation that might destroy more than your relationship. Staying late at work could be a valid excuse, but it’s one that you should consider when deciding if your spouse is unfaithful.

If the truth is what you’re after, than the truth is what you should expect to get. A cheating spouse may tell a lie, but it’s very difficult to tell one with the detail that usually accompanies a true story. Lack of detail or an inability to answer seemingly easy and obvious questions should catch your curiosity. This is a person you know and trust and you should trust your instincts when detail becomes vague.

"If you have to question too often and suspect too much, it might be a good idea to consider if this relationship is the one for you."

Anger or defensiveness that seems out of character for your spouse is usually a stellar sign that something’s amiss. When questioned, the guilty often try and turn the tables on the inquisitive. It’s easier to put the blame on someone else then to admit you were cheating. Although this is far from an admission of guilt, it is a common ploy. Be careful if your spouse begins to do this to you.

After a long day at work or following a game of golf on the weekend, a shower is a nice refreshing way to end the day . . . or is it? A cheating spouse may feel the need to get clean after other activities, too. This comes down to how well you know your partner. If it seems out of the ordinary then perhaps it is. Don’t let a squeaky-clean spouse try and pull one over on you.

If you have to question too often and suspect too much, it might be a good idea to consider if this relationship is the one for you. After all, a relationship is built on trust. It almost doesn’t matter if they have been unfaithful. The fact is that there isn’t trust between you. You can try and build that trust if you think it’s worth it. Otherwise it might be a good idea to admit that the relationship isn’t working and move on to find one where you question less and trust more.

Finding the truth behind your spouses’ activities can be impossible. Trust your judgment. Listen to that little voice in the back of your head but know that there’s a lot at stake. Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly and ending one is just as serious. Keep your guard up and hopefully the truth behind a possible cheating spouse will appear. If it does and it doesn’t end well, you can always find love online on one of the many dating sites that have sprung up all over the net. There is always a better relationship out there for you. The question is which one will you settle for?