Control Freaks

If you’ve ever found yourself in a relationship where everything you do is wrong, just relax! It probably has very little to do with you. You might have just hooked yourself up with a control freak. This is a problem that can be solved – for you, at least. The first thing you need to do is figure out if that’s exactly the problem you’re dealing with.

Control freaks have the market cornered on domination. Some cases can be mild while others severe. Whatever the case, there are some telling signs to consider. Does your partner insist on driving at all times? Do they dominate conversations and belittle your opinions? Do they always know what’s best for you and the people around them? Are they always checking up on your to ensure you’re doing things right? Must they always have the dominant position between the sheets? These can be some telling signs that you have a control freak on your hands.

"Control freaks don’t make great partners, but a reformed freak could be just the romance your life needs!"

What you do with this knowledge is up to you. One question that you must ask is whether or not you’d be happy in the relationship if his or her behavior patterns were to change. If the answer is no, you think you think the relationship is ruined, you know what you have to do. The one thing I will say is that it is possible through work to bring a relationship back from the dead and it is possible to make it strong again. Make sure you really consider that before pulling the plug on what otherwise could be a good thing. If you still think no, then you’re in the right place! We have rated and ranked he best and worst dating sites on the Net so you can start your search for your next romance with us. If you think that your relationship is workable, that you can make a great life out of your relationship if things were to change, then you have to table the discussion. This might not always be easy when you’re in a relationship with someone who monopolizes conversation, but it must be done.

Control freaks need support if they are to overcome their ways. You should start any conversation my reaffirming your love for them. After all, you’re about to drop a bag of hammers on their head and you want to cushion the blow as much as possible. They’re going to need your support because you’re about to tell them that they have a serious problem – one that you may not be able to live your whole life with. If it might help, get clinical explanations for control freaks from trusted resources. This can help you back up your opinion in case your control freak decides that, once again, you have no idea what you’re talking about. Explain your reasoning behind what you ask. Explain how it makes you feel. Explain that you need this change from them. It can be tough asking someone to change for you. In some cases, it might even be wrong to ask. But when people push for control they are asking to dominate your life and the lives of those around them. If you love them, you owe them your honesty and the help they’ll need to overcome their problem.

Living with a control freak for a lifetime sounds like hell upon earth. However, if you can break your relationship out of this destructive pattern, you might just see a new world open for you and your love. Control freaks don’t make great partners, but a reformed freak could be just the romance your life needs!

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Comments by: JS
uh, how about articles on control freaks give us readers actually information on how to cope. how do i deal with my g/f cleaning our bedroom and moving my stuff all the time? tell her i love her and getting her help? something more practical and less hippie, please!

Comments by: Jane
My control freak started out as the sweetest most laid back person I d ever met. But after 5 weeks he just snapped out of the blue and for the next 2wks suddenly insisted on controlling every aspect of my life; my friends, who could make me laugh, what I eat, what I wear. His reason was to make him happy . I m glad I listened to my instincts and got out after 2 wks of being badgered by him.

Comments by: Larry
I was with a contol freak just short of ten years. It was twice as bad for me because we were also business partners. She alienated my friends and family and really killed my self esteem. I found out she was embezzeling from our corporate account when I confronted her things got ugly. I am no longer with the company or her. If you re with a control freak get out now. If you can t I pray for you.

Comments by: Sabrina
I have been with the same &^%*(%&^%$^ for 10 years now and it s still never changed I am always asked a million questions because I go to school and ALWAYS accusing me of sleeping around...I cant even go out with my friends or sisters even without him saying something negative and then when I get mad I feel bad. So whats wrong with this picture???Please give me some good advice. thanks

Comments by: Deb
Im living with a serious control freak - in 3 years he got rid of all my friends with his lies, friends I have had for over 28 years. Im miserable and walk on egg shells everyday it creeps upon you slowly that you dont notice how controlling, i used to be so strong a person, he controls what i eat as he has the money i lost my job, im planning to leave when my daughter gets married in a few months

Comments by: WA
I ve been with a control freak for 20 years and am planning on getting out, it s best to just up and leave a note behind, you can t reason with her and you can t discuss things at all without her getting mad, she can t discuss things in a normal rational manner, my life is miserable, but I am talking to friends and it helps trememdously, I am staying for the boys, it won t be long, I ll be gone.

Comments by: cah
becky, get out of this relationship. save yourself. be you again. be happy again. He wont change. he will destroy you and everything you ever try or want to do or have. one day nice, next day screaming..I was on the end of a yoyo string. You need to move on. I believe we all have a right to harmony. my guy wanted to break me down, keep me locked up and have no friends or family. it gets worse.

Comments by: cah
I am leaving my control freak boyfriend I have lived with for 27 months. I will be gone in 10 days. I am so excited about leaving. He abused me mentally, emotionally, verbally and twice physically. I felt like I was in training when I first moved in. I had never been with a control freak before so I really did not understand. I do understand now-he s a true control freak. it wasnt me, it was him

Comments by: Jaynie
Relationships should be happy. Robert Louis Stevenson said (1850 ~ 1894) in his Pattern for Living and Short Prayers for the Long Day, Since hate poisons the Soul, do not cherish enmities, grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy . Control freaks unfortunately have a most distressing way of making you feel unhappy. I will stick with Mr. Stevenson thank you.

Comments by: becky
my partner likes to control what i do where i go and who i c now he wants me to show him my cheque books, statements i have currently had to cancel them because he has gone thru them online aswell as the paper 1s can any1 help plz thanks