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Dating After Divorce



By: Jenn Malko

Dating After DivorceThe end of a major relationship can be the beginning of something bigger and brighter – when you’re ready for it to be. Dating after divorce can be difficult, considering that your whole life used to revolve around one person. Your social circles are different, your friends may have changed and you could have lost contact with the singles scene. Online dating provides an answer to these problems. You don’t have to reconnect with old friends to help you meet someone new. You don’t have to worry about talking to mutual friends you share with your ex about your intentions to date. And the singles scene can come to you, if you have access to the Internet. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re ready to get back into the game through online dating.

If you’re going to be dating online after divorce, you’re going to need a handle–an online name. We suggest putting a fresh face on. Pick something liberating. This is a new beginning, after all! There are a number of other things to consider when picking a name, so if you’re stuck and need a hand, take a flip through this article on picking your handle. After the picture, your name is probably the next thing people look at.

Speaking of pictures, lets hope you’ve kept some around to use for your profile! Pictures are essential to any profile. Now we realize there may be some issues after divorce that could get in the way of using pictures for online dating. Certainly, some you won’t overcome, but you can’t get away from the fact that physical attraction is the easiest thing to figure out. You look, you see, you like or you don’t like. Some call it superficial but really it’s just realistic. If you’d like some more info on getting your picture up and running, check our picture profile perfection page. Pictures are your best tool to get you back into dating after divorce so make sure to use them to your advantage!

Words will tell the story you want others to hear and this will come out in what you write in your profile. Just about every site has a series of multiple-choice questions to answer, such as your age, height and marital status. Most will also allow you to include a personal essay and you should take advantage of it. Whether you choose to mention your divorce or not is up to you. For some people it will be extremely important while for others it won’t mean a thing. Your past is personal, though, so you shouldn’t feel pressure either way. Read a little more on how to write the perfect personals profile here.

"Dating after divorce is scary, exciting and can be a lot of fun – if you’re ready to make the transition."

If you use an online dating site to meet people after your divorce, email and instant messaging communication will undoubtedly be in your future. How you handle it might make or break your chances when you come across the right connection. If you’re unsure of how quality conversation takes place, you should do a little reading with these five hot tips for emailing. Many people prefer instant messaging programs these days, so you’ll need to get a copy of popular programs such as the AOL instant messenger or MSN Messenger. Once you do, you can check out this piece on tips to keeping your messaging conversations in top form.

So now, weeks later, you’ve met some interesting people, some of which may even be dating after divorce, too. You’ve shared smiles and exchanged emails. You’ve spent hours typing back and forth to each other over instant messaging and have even had a phone call or two. Perhaps it’s time for a first date? Dating after divorce is a big step, but as you’ll be able to tell from getting back online, it isn’t impossible. Now that you’re on the verge of your first meeting, you should take into consideration the power of a first impression. In this article on first dates, we outline some things to take into consideration that will help you do everything in your power to get your message across. Read up and you’re bound to feel more secure about your first excursion back into the world of singles!

Dating after divorce is scary, exciting and can be a lot of fun–if you’re ready to make the transition. Online dating is easy and probably the best way for you to connect with singles in your area. It carries advantages, such as anonymity and the ability to search for specific criteria, which those recently out of a marriage might be seeking. Check out some of our dating site reviews and see if any speak to your needs. Good luck with the first few steps you take to forming your new life!


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