You’ve found the girl of your dreams. There she is – across the room. She’s standing by herself. She smiles at you and you, being whip-smart as you are, smile back. Now all it takes is for you to stroll on over there and introduce yourself as her future husband. Ah, if only dating for shy guys could be this easy!

Most guys find the first initial steps of dating to be difficult, no matter if they’re shy or not. Firstly, it’s natural to want to have a girlfriend. It’s part of our genetic makeup to want companionship and all the benefits that come along with it. The problem is, the more you want it the worse it plays on your mind. For example, you see a girl across the bar and she’s totally your type. She looks gorgeous, has a great smile and seems to be having the time of her life. As of right now, you have already put her on a pedestal and that perch is almost out of reach. How can you go up and talk to someone that beautiful, who smiles like an angel and who looks to be enjoying life as much as you wish you could with her? Did you just see the pedestal grow again? This is what it’s like dating for shy guys. The women we want seem just out of reach. In reality, shy guys have the same chances as any other man or beast on the planet when it comes to dating. The difference is making that first move.

Shy guys have been stuck dating in the dark since the beginning of time. Recently, though, someone came by and flipped the light switch. Look around and you will see everyone – a huge roomful of guys who are rubbing their eyes and waking up to the equal playing field that has been laid out before them. The great equalizer is the Internet. Although it seems a little like your street corner pusher rambling on about the virtues of crack to be extolling the benefits of dating sites on a site that focuses on online romance, the fact is that we have seen the light. The light comes in the form of a tiny virtual smile you can send from the comfort and privacy of your home and it’s bright enough to save you from being the shy guy you are.

"Technology lights the path to a dating future where shy guys can shine. Walk into the light!"

Most dating sites allow you to send a sign of interest to other parties. Some call them winks while others have smiles or some other overly cute way to describe the digital version of a catcall. Can you imagine seeing a girl across the bar and letting out a loud whistle to catch her attention? Obviously not, because you’re a shy guy who has taken a hands-off approach to dating. But online you can basically scream out your interest with virtually no real contact or worry about face-to-face rejection. If you send a smile and they don’t smile back, what loss is there? You will never meet her or see her. Plus, it’s most likely free, and whose bank account can’t use a little break now and again? Dating for shy guys gets a lot easier when you can make all the advances you want without fear of personal rejection.

Shy as you might be, you managed to send a sign of interest to a beautiful girl and she miraculously sent one back! Congratulations, because dating will never be the same for you again. That is, unless we forget that now you have to meet this dream girl in person. Suddenly the pressure is back, the palms are sweating and you think you’d rather give up dating than appear to be this shy fool that shows up on your date with her. Hey, relax! This will be easy. First, remember that you got this date yourself. She’s seen your pictures and spoken with you to some extent. You’re got your foot in the door so remember that it is your foot and she’s seen it and likes it! Use this like a general riding into battle from an uphill position. You have the advantage. Lean on it. She is interested in you, shy guy, so all you have to do on this date is bring her home – figuratively, not literally!

Dating for shy guys can be easy through online dating. There are a number of other articles on this site that might be of use to you to help you close the deal with this dazzling dame. Feel free to check out some shy guy suggestions for bringing a date a gift and how to have fantastic first dates. Once there, you can use some tips on flirting and some skilful body language signs to get your message across. Technology lights the path to a dating future where shy guys can shine. Walk into the light!