Getting Over Being Dumped
By: Jenn Malko
It
is never easy when a relationship ends. The memories are still fresh, the thoughts
and feelings are all still there and then there’s the problem of "being dumped" to deal with. Getting over being dumped is a fact of
life we all face. How you choose to handle it is up to you, but it’s
not going to be easy no matter what. Still, how well you rebound can be determined
by what path you choose to take.
After the initial break-up, there will be a lot you need to contend with before you can get over being dumped. Whether you knew it was coming or not, you need to handle the situation gracefully. This means hearing what the other person is asking for and giving that to them. In this case, they need to be alone. If you’ve been dating for any length of time, there will be things that you’ll have to go through to detach yourself from the relationship. Handle it with maturity. Pack their things neatly in a box and make sure they get it safely. Be polite. The relationship is over so there’s no use in making it any harder than it already is. Part of this is accepting the bare truth of it. It’s hard to say and hurts to feel, but the sooner you grasp it, the sooner you can move on. To do this, you should cut your ties with your ex where you can. Obviously, if there’s children involved or some other major issue to deal with, this might not be as easy. But the more time you spend with or on someone from your past, the less time you’ll have to spend with the right person in you future. Getting over being dumped takes a conscious effort to accept it, handle it and make the break, but with a little help, you can do it!
Dealing with the aftermath of being dumped won’t be easy so it’s important that you find a way to move on. Family is always there in your time of need and should be the first people you look to lean on. Friends are also essential in this equation. Hopefully you haven’t lost touch with people from your past, but if you have, then there’s not time like the present to reconnect. Friends know that relationships can and do change people. They’ll probably thrilled to have you back full-time! Beyond your support network, you can do other things to strengthen yourself after being dumped. Fill your social calendar with events. It’s the best way to get out and meet new people. Join that sports league or take that class you’ve been thinking about. Do the things you wanted to do while you were in the relationship but couldn’t. Getting over being dumped is easier when you actively try to move on and reclaim your life!
"How you deal with being dumped is up to you. There’s a fork in the road. Which path do you choose?"
Nothing cures a broken heart after being dumped than the next great relationship. It might not happen right away, but eventually you’ll be at a point where you’re ready to look for romance one again. Before you do, you should consider your situation carefully. Has there been enough time? Will a new relationship just cause you more pain? Will the relationship with your ex ruin anything new that you attempt to get into? If all lights are green then it is time to look at who you want to be with. What is it you’re looking for in a partner? What characteristics must they have? Outlining your needs is the first step to finding the right match. Once you’re ready to date again, getting over being dumped will be much easier. Now you just have to consider where to look.
You have two choices for finding a date after being dumped. You can either look offline or online. If you plan to look offline, this means sourcing your friends for possible contacts, heading out to bars and social gatherings or finding someone you click with in the basketball league you just joined. Online dating sites are also an option that will help you get over being dumped. You can find thousands of matches within clicks of finding the right dating site. But, you’ll need some good places to start. Luckily, that’s what we do best here – rate and rank dating sites to sort out the crap. You can date online anonymously if you’re not prepared to put up your picture, but we highly recommend you do. You can easily sort through tons of profiles using the criteria you set out above for your dream man or woman. There are a world of options out there to help you get over being dumped so it’s probably best to develop a strategy that allows for efforts both online and off.
Getting over being dumped takes the right time, the right mindset,
a strong support network and the eventual desire to move on. Nobody
can take your pain or erase the memories from your past, but it will get better,
day-by-day. How you deal with being dumped is up to you. There’s a fork
in the road. Which path do you choose?
User Comments: (enter your comments)
Comments by: Maria
11 days. Anyway we had a long distance relationship since he relocated to another state. We both took different paths and I ad affection for him. He told me 11 days ago that I had to let him go... that he will not move to my state, that his calls will be less frequent and with less intensity and that he wanted to be alone because his life was changing. My ego is hurting. BUT I feel FREEEE!!!!
Comments by: brian
9 years and she s(girlfriend) gone.we lived 2gether in a home her parents owned. we werent getting along.When she left she said she just wanted us to get our lives together and be apart for a bit. she moved in with her parents 400 miles away. she called everyday saying she loved & missed me.out of no where she stopped calling.i found out she met someone else.she sent me an email saying not 2 call.
Comments by: Empathize
Two months ago my girlfriend told me on my birthday that we weren t a match and that she had started dating someone else. We had been together for 2 years. She was the closest person in my life during that period. I experienced an extremely painful period e.g. extreme anxiety and sadness the first 30+/- days. Been feeling better. I PROMISE symptoms do lessen over time. Hang in there everyone!!
Comments by: J
My ex just dumped me after a one year relationship. We had been talking about moving in together. She had a jealous streak and was always accusing me of looking for other women. I don t want to be with someone who thinks I am a scumbag. She told me she doesn t know what she wants; that she wants some time. I know in the long run I am better off without her, but the sting is still there.
Comments by: Leslie
I just was dumped by my boyfriend of over 2 years. I m an absolute wreck--I feel like I can t even breathe. I think that there is someone else, but he denies it. Why doesn t he love me anymore??? My heart is breaking
Comments by: Ms_Lexi
Im in tears cos ive just been dumped by my best friend. Thats what is hard about it, i was finished because we are best friends & he said that special spark wasnt there. It hurts like hell cos he was the 1 person i spoke to every day, about everything & anything. I dont have that with anyone else. He still wants to be friends, but that wont work so ive cut him out of my life, i just want him back.
Comments by: Peter
Just got dumped for another guy. We work together which makes it so much harder. She says we re better suited as friends. Not going to be easy.
Comments by: ashley
i ve been with my boyfriend for awile..
and now he has decided that we argue to
much. i ve been crying and so depressed for the last two days. i wont leave the house. i can t eat or sleep. i went to his to get the rest of my stuff and i thought i was gonna pass out i was so upset. i miss him and he tells me he just needs time but i just don t want to wait and he decide he doesn t to try anymore
Comments by: sandy
I got dumped after 3 years, I became pregnant and he lost it. i ended up having a miscarrage and I was three months pregnant. Looks like 3 has been the magic number.Hes gone and now calling and saying he messed up even has his mother calling. Im movin on! Oh by the way, this guy is not a 20 year old hes 48.
Comments by: christian
got dumped 5 days ago - totally out of the blue , we had been planning to move in together . reasons given - i had no direction and had hobbies . well good luck to her i say - i was ready to take on her two kids (who are about to turn into teenagers) , im 7 years younger than her , am a well paid professional , and im pretty certain im a decent guy . so, it hurts like HELL- but its HER LOSS!
