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Getting Over Being Dumped



By: Jenn Malko

Getting over being dumpedIt is never easy when a relationship ends. The memories are still fresh, the thoughts and feelings are all still there and then there’s the problem of "being dumped" to deal with. Getting over being dumped is a fact of life we all face. How you choose to handle it is up to you, but it’s not going to be easy no matter what. Still, how well you rebound can be determined by what path you choose to take.

After the initial break-up, there will be a lot you need to contend with before you can get over being dumped. Whether you knew it was coming or not, you need to handle the situation gracefully. This means hearing what the other person is asking for and giving that to them. In this case, they need to be alone. If you’ve been dating for any length of time, there will be things that you’ll have to go through to detach yourself from the relationship. Handle it with maturity. Pack their things neatly in a box and make sure they get it safely. Be polite. The relationship is over so there’s no use in making it any harder than it already is. Part of this is accepting the bare truth of it. It’s hard to say and hurts to feel, but the sooner you grasp it, the sooner you can move on. To do this, you should cut your ties with your ex where you can. Obviously, if there’s children involved or some other major issue to deal with, this might not be as easy. But the more time you spend with or on someone from your past, the less time you’ll have to spend with the right person in you future. Getting over being dumped takes a conscious effort to accept it, handle it and make the break, but with a little help, you can do it!

Dealing with the aftermath of being dumped won’t be easy so it’s important that you find a way to move on. Family is always there in your time of need and should be the first people you look to lean on. Friends are also essential in this equation. Hopefully you haven’t lost touch with people from your past, but if you have, then there’s not time like the present to reconnect. Friends know that relationships can and do change people. They’ll probably thrilled to have you back full-time! Beyond your support network, you can do other things to strengthen yourself after being dumped. Fill your social calendar with events. It’s the best way to get out and meet new people. Join that sports league or take that class you’ve been thinking about. Do the things you wanted to do while you were in the relationship but couldn’t. Getting over being dumped is easier when you actively try to move on and reclaim your life!

"How you deal with being dumped is up to you. There’s a fork in the road. Which path do you choose?"

Nothing cures a broken heart after being dumped than the next great relationship. It might not happen right away, but eventually you’ll be at a point where you’re ready to look for romance one again. Before you do, you should consider your situation carefully. Has there been enough time? Will a new relationship just cause you more pain? Will the relationship with your ex ruin anything new that you attempt to get into? If all lights are green then it is time to look at who you want to be with. What is it you’re looking for in a partner? What characteristics must they have? Outlining your needs is the first step to finding the right match. Once you’re ready to date again, getting over being dumped will be much easier. Now you just have to consider where to look.

You have two choices for finding a date after being dumped. You can either look offline or online. If you plan to look offline, this means sourcing your friends for possible contacts, heading out to bars and social gatherings or finding someone you click with in the basketball league you just joined. Online dating sites are also an option that will help you get over being dumped. You can find thousands of matches within clicks of finding the right dating site. But, you’ll need some good places to start. Luckily, that’s what we do best here – rate and rank dating sites to sort out the crap. You can date online anonymously if you’re not prepared to put up your picture, but we highly recommend you do. You can easily sort through tons of profiles using the criteria you set out above for your dream man or woman. There are a world of options out there to help you get over being dumped so it’s probably best to develop a strategy that allows for efforts both online and off.

Getting over being dumped takes the right time, the right mindset, a strong support network and the eventual desire to move on. Nobody can take your pain or erase the memories from your past, but it will get better, day-by-day. How you deal with being dumped is up to you. There’s a fork in the road. Which path do you choose?


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Comments by: Kathy
It helps. My ex-husband and I were getting back together. There are teenage children involved who haven t seen their dad since he got together with his old and now girlfriend. He left me for money, I guess it s for the best. and here you are. Yeah, it hurts, but I m not the jerk, and I won t treat my children s father as the jerk. Thanks for keeping me focused.

Comments by: B
I thought I was going to marry this kid...he dumped me a million times and kept coming back then the last time he came back i thought we were good, till i found out he was messin around with other girls..it hurt, and he dumped me again before I had the chance to say anything. I really am going to move on

Comments by: jassica
i think being dumped is horrible. just because you feel alone in a very big dark.. trust me,i know how it feels to be dumped,but you have to appreciate it,because it is a life

Comments by: rich
yeah, my gf split up with me because she felt we were too young and it was to intense, and she wanted to be able to do what she wants when she wants; I understood, but the fact she says she still loves me makes it so much harder for me to get on with my life! I really need closure so i can move on. . .

Comments by: Mona
I was dumped suddenly despite my ex telling me a week before that she was happy. She immediately got involved and not after 7 mos, she confesses that she still has feelings. We slept together but afterwards she told the new person, but didn t leave her. I felt dumped all over again.

Comments by: Samantha
I was dumped last week via email. I have tried many times to get him to meet with me - even saying that I just need to talk to move on. his response: catch up with me next week! Then I lost my cool! I put him on blast online (where all his friends are)Did I mention that he is 33?????? It hurts so badly!

Comments by: Kat
I got dumped by a guy for his ex. She told him she MAY want him back, but wasn t sure. She was already dating someone as well but it wasn t going well. I think she saw how much he had changed and how happy he was and decided she may have made a mistake. She hurt me, my children and her own son because she doesn t know what she wants. Nothing like confusing everyone!

Comments by: Jennifer
I was dumped byt he same guy twice. You know the whole fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me? yeah well story of that relationship but I learned to close that chapter and act happy untill you actually feel happy!

Comments by: mema
Laura Ware, I know exactly what you mean. It hurts but it hurts more when you can t go out to forget. Friends mean well but they are not asking me out either.

Comments by: garry
my wife left me after nine years together.with in two weeks she got another bloke on the go.she is moving on and i have been left wondering what happened.gutted