Picking up a girl is as easy as knowing that you can. By the end of this article, you will have the simple secret to making this happen. You need to know that not every girl you try and pick up will be “your type” and you won't be theirs. You need to know what you’re looking for in a partner. Knowing will give you confidence. Confidence won’t allow you to pick up every girl – because that’s impossible – but it will allow you to pick up a woman whose traveling down a similar path. That's what you'll need to do to pick up the girl of your dreams!

Everyone already has it inside them to pick up a girl. The first thing you need to know, though, is that you can’t pick up every girl. More importantly, you’re not supposed to. You want to find the right girl – a girl with many qualities that appeal to your nature. A fool goes out and hits on any beautiful woman he sees. How do you know what they’re like? I’m not suggesting that you forgo all advances aimed at picking up girls for fun. I’m just saying be smarter about it. You can’t let yourself get down and you’ll have more to be disappointed with if you’re constantly hitting on the wrong type. If you think of every girl as a possible match, regardless of what you do or don’t know about them, you’re not paying attention to the subtle signs that are whispering the truth to you: she’s not your type!

"If you can tell she’s interested before you pop the big question, you’ll save yourself any needless rejection."

If you have trouble making decisions, figuring out your type can be daunting. Try sitting down and writing out what qualities you’re after. Write about things such as hair color, height, weight, education, age and employment. Include traits in your list, such as honesty, compassion and loyalty and/or skills such as cooking, sailing or kite building. You probably won’t find a woman with every quality you list, but you certainly can’t find one if you haven’t started with an idea of what you’re looking for. Getting a background in what type of girl you want to pick up will save you time chasing opportunities that are dead ends from the start. If you can’t decide on what qualities and traits you’re looking for, you should back off on any desire for a serious relationship. Again, you’ll need to know what will make you happy before you jump into something with the hopes that it’s right. Getting out of a relationship is tough so save yourself the heartache. I’m not saying that if you’re looking for something serious and don’t know what you want that you should stop dating. I’m just saying that before you become worried about picking up any girl, you need to focus on the right kind.

So you now know that you will only be truly successful in picking up the right girl if she is your type and she has qualities that appeal to you. How do you pick her up? Ideally, you can scope out the situation before making your move. If she’s interested in you right off the bat, you should know it. Is she meeting your gaze and smiling back? People who are interested in someone get happy and excited when they meet them. You should be able to read this. Look for body signs such as flicking of the hair or touching the neck, which can be tell if read correctly. The best sign is in the eyes, though. If she smiles at you with her eyes, you know you’re half way there. Once you have established possible interest, you need to move forward with conversation. I hate the idea of “pick up lines.” Conversation is supposed to be natural – not scripted. Talk about anything. It doesn’t matter, really. What does matter is how you say what you’re saying and how she responds. As odd as it sounds, try looking into a mirror and talking about the weather or what you ate for lunch and try and convey interest through your use of voice and facial expression. Yes, this is also known as flirting. Look at what works and use it the next time you meet someone special. Always be looking back at her for the same types of signs. Most people don’t have to practice to give the right impression – normally it comes naturally. But if you can tell she’s interested before you pop the big question, you’ll save yourself any needless rejection.

"You have your entire life resting on your ability to pick up the right girl."

Picking up a girl actually requires an exchange that leads to the two of you talking or meeting up at a latter time, which is otherwise known as a date. This is the closer. What we know from first dates is that what matters most is a meeting that allows you to get to know that person better. Don’t worry about pulling out expensive dinners or lavish nights on the town. There will be enough of that later in the relationship, to be sure. You want to open the possibility by doing something that’s not threatening in any way. You want to find something that will be easy for her to say yes to. Simple ideas such as ice cream down in the park, a coffee or a walk will work best. Hopefully, when you were chatting together, you found some common interests. Maybe you both like the same flavor of coffee or you both haven’t gotten outside enough to enjoy the great weather. Use your conversation as an opener and it will seem like a natural idea for her to say yes. If you’re her type, she’s your type and you have read the signals correctly, you can close the book on knowing what it takes to pick up a girl!

Knowing is what makes or breaks a successful request for a date. If you've read what we’ve set out above, you will have confidence. Confidence makes you powerful and creates desire in other people. It might take some work, but you’re certainly up for the challenge. After all, you have your entire life resting on your ability to pick up the right girl.