Your first date is probably the biggest step you’ll have to take to get a new relationship off the ground. If you think that it’s clear sailing from there, though, you’re mistaken! Sometimes your most difficult step is winning over the opinions of those closest to your new love interest. In this case, we’re talking about wooing his or her parents. Hopefully it goes off without a hitch, but you should always prepare for the worst!

You first need to consider the mindset of the average parent. You need to think like them. What is it they want from the person dating their child? First and foremost they’re going to want someone who can give the love that we all need. No, this doesn’t mean they want to see you in a series of endless lip locks. Hopefully you’ll be able to convey this subtly with your looks and gestures during your visit. They’re also going to want to know that you’ll be able to support your lives together. If you’re still in school, try and give them the impression that you have some direction for your life. If you’re out of work, try and convey you have a plan of attack. What you’re doing now matters less than what you will be doing in the future. Focus on that. Beyond your intentions and your career, they’ll want to see that you two fit together. You might just end up being a new family member down the line so thinking about what they want from you is a solid first step.

“Conversation skills will go a long way to securing good favor in the weeks, months or years to come.”

First impressions are everything and your appearance is often what will do the most talking in those few initial moments. You may have some serious style when out with your crowd, but these people probably travel in different circles. You shouldn’t get too dressed up, unless you’re heading to something formal. You also shouldn’t be too casual, unless you’re off to a day at the beach. Make sure whatever you wear is clean and ironed, if that’s appropriate, and you don’t want anything too revealing. That can make people feel uncomfortable. Dress as middle-of-the-road as you can and you can be sure to have your bases covered.

Conversation will be the foundation for your relationship from this point on. What you say and how you say it will be under the microscope, even if they’re examining you unconsciously. Sex, money, drugs, politics and religion are hotspots with most people so try to stay away from them if you can. If you’re a little rusty with making conversation, try and think of a few things beforehand that you can talk about that might get them involved. Reading the daily news is a good place to start. Also remember that conversation needs to go all ways. Each person that night should have an equal amount of time to talk. If someone is a little quiet, throw a question their way to get them involved. If you find yourself getting thumped with queries, using questions in return is a good way to turn the focus back on them. Think of yourself as the host of the party, even if you’re not, and it’s your job to make sure everyone is having a good time. Conversation skills will go a long way to securing good favor in the weeks, months or years to come.

Although last on our list, talking to your date about what to expect should be the first thing you do. They have years of inside knowledge of how to cope with what you’re about to face. Find out from them where danger might lurk, what hobbies his or her parents might have and what things they like to talk about. You’d study before any test and this is one exam you’re going to want to ace!