Your boyfriend thinks a lot of things, doesn’t he? Let me guess, he’s witty, charming, handsome and intelligent, which means that you value his opinion. After all, he’s proven his wisdom by partnering with you. But now it seems that for all the reasons he had for getting together with you, he now has opinions that you need to somehow change elements of your life. Obviously, you two are close – at least close enough to be open and honest about how you feel. You need to see if the point(s) he brings up are valid. Make sure to look deep and you might find answers and solutions that will solve any issue. Whatever you do, there is an easy guide that will help you answer any problems about what your boyfriend thinks you should and shouldn’t do. What your boyfriend thinks is important but it needs to be looked at from an objective point of view.

Sometimes the people that are closest can see things about you that you may or may not. When your boyfriend thinks you should change in some way, you’ll need to figure out how you feel about what he’s asking you for. Did you want to change that aspect of your life before? Does his opinion seem valid? People have a funny way of placing importance in things that only matter to them. You need to ask yourself how valid his opinion is to your life. If you don’t see merit in what he’s saying, you owe it to yourself to kindly put him in his place. But, seeing as he is so involved with your life and could possibly be close enough to you to offer worthy criticism, there are times when his point may be worth exploring.

"The universal truths should be what guide you in life, no matter what your boyfriend thinks"

Try and see the angles – the reasons why he thinks one way or another about you. This isn’t always easy. Your past largely shapes your reactions to things in the future so you might have to have intimate knowledge of many areas of his life to understand his point of view. If you can get your head around where he’s coming from, you’ll be better able to determine the weight that his comments should carry in your life. If you can’t figure out the angles, then lean towards whatever makes you most comfortable.

The universal truths should be what guide you in life, no matter what your boyfriend thinks you should and shouldn’t do. This is a really simple concept to understand but very difficult to put into practice. Universal truths are what we know to be the founding principals of a great society. Truths such as honesty, compassion, justice and equality should be our guides while others such as jealousy, greed and anger must be quashed. If what you are doing doesn’t agree with these principals, then you know what course you must take. If his views come from areas such as anger and greed, then you also know which path to take. If your boyfriend starts in on you about things that don’t come from or involve any of the main universal truths, then what he’s on about can’t really be all that important so you should feel free to take whatever stance you’d like.

If what you are doing or why you’re doing something is important to you, you need to articulate it. Communication is the cornerstone to any relationship. Without it, your relationship can only be built so high before it topples. What your boyfriend thinks is important should be taken into consideration. After all, in any relationship you need two people who are happy and healthy. But if the problem with your boyfriend is that he’s never happy with what you’re doing, you either need to identify and point out the flaw in his character or make changes in your life that adhere to the universal truths. And again, if you can’t find anything in the truths to guide you or anything in his personality to suggest that he is in the wrong, then what you’re discussing really can’t be important enough to worry too much about!

If you take an objective look at what your boyfriend is asking of you, you will be able to make a clear judgment as to how to respond. It’s important to look at the problem rationally – without emotion. Emotion is essential to enjoying life but when it comes to making decisions that will effect your future and your future as a couple, it’s best to use a higher power, those universal truths, to help guide you.