It’s not always roses and rainbows in life. As a matter of fact, in can be downright disastrous at times. It never ceases to amaze me how many people actually seem to write their online profiles during their darkest of days. You have to be truthful with whatever it is you want others to know, but you only get one chance to make a first impression. Faced with two people, one with a sunny disposition and another with a chip on their shoulder and a tear running down their cheek, which one would you choose to reach out and touch? The vast majority would choose to follow the light. When writing your personals profile, it’s essential that you keep it positive to pack the most punch!

There are many ways to get your points across without looking like you have a storm cloud hovering over your head. You can adjust your writing to convey the same points with a more positive spin. Here are some examples taken from a few dating sites . . .

Negative:
I hate players so if you don’t know what you’re looking for or have sex on the brain, move on!
Positive:
I’m looking for a mature, committed relationship with someone who knows what they want out of life.

Let’s face it, anyone who’s a player probably won’t stop playing with you simply because you challenge them. In fact, you might be sticking a bull’s-eye on your back. You’re also saying that you’ve been burned and are now jaded. Although this might actually be the case, Mr. or Ms. Right might not want to be the one to put out the flames and tend to your wounds.

Negative:
If you’re selfish and unaffectionate, don’t bother.
Positive:
I’m looking for someone who’s caring, compassionate and loves to be affectionate.

I can just see the writer pouting and jumping up and down to get his or her way. This isn’t a great image for a first impression

Negative:
Save your credits if you are a neurotic, obsessive-compulsive, controlling, unemployed boyfriend-type.
Positive:
If you’re well adjusted, easy going, open and established, drop me a line.

Actually, I think this person has some issues of her own to deal with first. Again, stay away from writing your profile when the world has just fallen on your head.

Love is supposed to be a wonderful experience between two people. It will certainly be harder to attract the well-adjusted, great catches that you can find online if you start out by throwing lightning bolts from your profile. Keeping things positive is easy. Just take a deep breath and take your time when you sit down to write. If negative thoughts make their way to the paper, try writing an opposite, positive sentence right after it – then delete the first one! Keeping things positive might just be the difference keeping you away from that special someone you’re online in search of.