Rebound Relationships: Are they really for you?
By: Jenn Malko
It’s
normal to feel empty and alone after a long relationship comes to an end. It
doesn’t matter if you were living with them and saw them every night and
day or if your major form of communication was through instant messaging or
the phone. When the routine of your life changes, there is going to be grief.
Now most of us attempt to avoid pain and seek pleasure. In some cases, that
means filling that hole in your life with someone else—and doing it
quickly. That brings us to the rebound relationship and the
dangers involved in it. Finding a good match for us isn’t supposed to be easy. Human beings are just too complex to fit perfectly together with many people. If you’ve just come out of a serious relationship and think you’ve found another “keeper,” it might be a good time to step back and look at the possibility that this might be a rebound.
"The lines of communication need to be open with whomever you’re dating."
If you’re not serious about the person you’re dating, do they know it? Just because you broke up with your mate of three years yesterday and this new person is aware of that, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’ve clued in to what you have in mind. The lines of communication need to be open with whomever you’re dating. In the end, it will mean less stress and pain for all involved.
If you’re looking to be the rebound for someone coming out of a long relationship, you could be playing with fire. It really depends on your needs and desires. Ask yourself if you’re willing to spend your time with this person to only have them up and leave when they’re strong enough to cope with living life on their own. If the answer is yes, then go ahead and good luck. If not, then it’s best to back off and leave the rebound relationships to those better suited for the bumps.
Rebound relationship resources:
Divorces And Rebounds: An About.com expert chats on rebounds after a marriage breaks up
Rebounds: A look from the perspective of Astrologer Lorna MacKinnon
Rebound Relationships for Teens: A youthful look at coping after a breakup
People
And Rebounds: Looking for love right after romance is wrecked
Feel free to leave any comments or other rebound relationship ideas below!
User Comments: (enter your comments)
Comments by: Beth Allen
My husband of 20 years left me 3 months ago. He is in a new relationship after 1 month.
He is a policeman and had a severe head injury last year June 17th, before he left he told me there was noone else and I loved me and our daughter. Now where he moved to is the womans he is having a relationship with. She works in the same office. Now he treats our daughter and me like scum.
Comments by: Elle
Seven months ago, I got out of a emotionally abusive relationship and a months and a half later I met my Boyfriend of now. I was half way getting over my ex and dealing that we would never get back together when this guy came in to my life. Six months on, I m deeply in love and he stuck around for me and helped me to get through the painful part of my life. xxx
Comments by: Louise
I am in a rebound relationship, but we are both hyper aware of the implecations and openly, honestly communicate about it. I also believe there is potential for our relationship. It s definitely risky, though. But any relationship is risky. Bottom line: He s worth the risk. I ll take my chances.
Comments by: bob
I got involved with an old friend after a long relationship. Rebound is certaintly there, but we keep the communication open and follow our guts as much as possible. I think any relationship after a long one is at risk of being short term, but lots of potential is there if both people are willing to keep the communication lines clear. It all depends on the two people involved.
