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Relationship Rejection



By: Jenn Malko

Relationship-RejectionRelationship rejection is one of those nasty byproducts that come along with dating. Most of us don’t have skin thick enough to completely ward off the effects. We are “only human” after all. However, when one person tells another that they aren’t a good match, politely or otherwise, you can’t help but feel the pain of rejection. This isn’t the soft pain that you associate with asking someone out and them saying no. This is relationship rejection and it comes after feelings have been seriously committed. When this happens, keep the following tips in mind.

Address the pain.
It’s no use hiding in your bed or behind a big bottle of wine. You’re bound to feel a great deal of pain and it’s good to embrace it. Rejection hurts but you need to face it to fix it and move on.

Avoid needless anguish.
Some relationships are worth fighting for, to be sure, but really take a look at what the reasons were that led to the breakup or rejection. You don’t want to beat a dead horse. Let it go and spend your time fighting for something and someone with a future.

Keep occupied.
As good as it is to face rejection, you also need to ensure that you’re not compounding the pain by dwelling needlessly on it. Get outside, get together with friends, join a club and keep social. Not only will it be better for you mentally, but it can also serve as an intro to your next relationship!

The right person for you is a step closer.
The truth of the matter is that by not spending time with someone who knows you’re not right for them, you’re opening up time in your life for someone who is right. After all, life is busy enough as is to spend what little free time we have with Mr. or Ms. Wrong.

Everyone faces rejection. It’s a part of dating and relationships. You might feel the sting for days, weeks or months to come, but when you keep focused on your goal of finding the right connection as opposed to the wrong one, you’re bound to bounce back and be all the better for it!


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Comments by: Sharon Barber
When you are lead on by the person who you find attractive and you fall in love with him he rejects you and the next minute he is rubbing it in right under your nose with a beautiful woman

Comments by: Mr. Martir!!!
i love to read this article... to share with i was so in love to the person i love but rejection is there even we discuss about our relation. Because of the third party, thats why we leave each other but still we see each other almost everyday and night.. pls. do give me some advice thanks in advance...

Comments by: Reisse
i liked this girl and gave her my number we txted 4 a bit then she never txted back. i asked her out and she said she liked someone else! Now i have to see her everyday in college but life goes on and i will just try and have fun and meet new people. good article! interesting points!

Comments by: Gigi
I never said goodbye. After 4 amazing days, after countless conversations about seeing each other again in the states, he left me in Paris without a goodbye. I haven t been the same since I got back to the states. We talked for over a year after that rejection. He apologized eventually, but I still don t have closure. Sometimes I think I never will.

Comments by: Gonzo
I do not, and never will understand women. Greater minds than mine have gone off the tracks trying to figure women out. I WAS nice to her, but she said no thank you anyway. Crikey.

Comments by: lily
I ve just experienced the pain of rejection for about 4 days, and this article helps me validate my feeling. The freshness of pain seems endless, but as time goes by, by God s creation, the human spirit is always resilient enough to bounce back

Comments by: Mojack B.
Very good article that I enjoyed reading.