Cupids Dating Blog

More Than A Fling With A Hot Mature Woman?

In an effort to find a better partner, I've been checking out a number of local dating sites in hopes I will find a hot mature woman willing to date a younger guy - and it has to be more than just a fling. After dating a number of girls my age or a few years younger, I'm starting to have major doubts as to whether I'm looking for women in the right age bracket. Whether my past girlfriends are just looking for a very casual, short-term affair or we just don't seem in sync when it comes to levels of maturity, more and more I find myself dumping women or getting dumped.

]]> This is not to say there aren't girls out there my age who would be a good match, but there are other reasons a hot mature woman is right up my alley. Any guy who has been with a mature girl knows they tend to be absolutely fantastic in bed. It could be because they aren't as shy as younger women or simply a matter of experience, but whatever the reason, the best sex I've ever had is with a woman roughly ten years older than me.

In my efforts to find a mature girlfriend, most of the responses I've received have been from ladies just looking for a fling. Naturally, as my experience in the sack with a hot older woman or two has been phenomenal, one would think I would jump at the chance (and one would be right, because I have in the past), but I feel as though I've reached an age where I need something more. As I mentioned though, I've dated a number of hot sexy babes around my age and find something lacking in the personality department.

I managed to score a date with an older woman tonight and I have no clue how to make my intentions known without royally messing things up. I honestly believe I have quite a lot to offer: I have a steady job, a great sense of humor (or so I've been told) and unless I've been lied to by a dozen chicks, I'm pretty good in bed too! The only part that really stumps me is how to take thing to the next level and turn a casual relationship into something pseudo serious.

Experimenting With An Older Gay Guy

For years I've known this older gay guy and for the first month or so of knowing him, he was constantly hitting on me until he finally got the point that I wasn't interested in dating him, let alone any sort of casual sex. The reason I kept hanging out with him is because he's just such an awesome guy. When he finally got the message, our friendship went on as normal and we really found a connection. He would always tell me about his experiences with guys he met on gay dating sites and I would confide in him about my relationship problems. We were perfectly comfortable talking about this stuff, so our friendship was really solidifying.

]]> About three months ago, he started hitting on me and flirting with me once again. For some reason, this time I didn't mind that much and instead of openly rejecting him, I simply ignored his advances. It wasn't as if he was making any grand gestures in order to woo me - just the occasional comment on how I was such a great guy, or sometimes "innocently" put his hand on my thigh. It certainly didn't seem that innocent to me, though. The main problem was, he would do this at fairly awkward moments like when I was talking about committing to a relationship I was in. That's what really threw me off.

The other weekend it was just the two of us hanging out, having a few beers (perhaps a few beers too many) and I guess I lost my sense of sexual orientation. Actually, you could certainly say I was sexually disoriented, because things started to get physical. Without going into too much detail, our pants were off and this older gay guy who was once my friend was soon becoming a lover! I've really been a strict guy when it comes to betrayal in relationships. My motto is always "One strike, you're out," so I quickly put an end to things before anything serious really happened. I was really just curious, but it quickly started feeling awkward.

Now, a couple weeks after the incident, things are not as bad. We've resumed our friendship (assuming the brief sexual encounter put our friendly relationship on hiatus), but there's still a lingering feeling that this may be the beginning of the end because I'm not sure if I'll ever completely get over what happened. Seeing as I don't have many friends, it certainly would be a shame to lose him, but I guess I have only myself to blame.

Last Night A Beautiful Hottie Saved My Life

Three months without sex can do a strange thing to a guy. It's like looking for employment in a bad economy. After the first month you still have some hope of getting something, but after the second month, pretty much everything seems lost. By the time the third month rolls around, you almost give up altogether! That's why when a beautiful hottie contacted me through a sex dating site yesterday afternoon, my pessimistic attitude all but disappeared.

]]> Perhaps the best part of it was that I never even made a real effort to pick anyone up on the site. A while ago I had been shopping around for a decent online dating site for my father because he's interested to know if there are any rich women looking for marriage and I completely forgot to close my account. I have no idea how this girl found me or even what prompted her to contact me in the first place, because the only things she could have possibly known about me must have been gleaned from the scant information I provided along with a couple of my profile pictures.

However I got such great luck is important because after a late night with this beautiful hottie, I'm determined to make it happen again. Her message was so straight to the point that I was initially skeptical, not to mention when I checked out her photos. This chick was smoking hot and maybe it was three months without sex that had me doubting myself. After a couple emails back and forth, though, we agreed to meet up at a bar after I was finished work.

Without going into graphic detail, let me just say it was one hell of a wild night, but I have no idea if I'll ever see this girl again. All she was looking for was casual sex and since she had a great body and a painfully boring personality, I was more than happy with the arrangement.

The only thing I can take away from this experience (aside from the fantastic sex, of course) is that the best way to overcome unintentional abstinence is to stop looking for sex. The same philosophy worked for me when searching for a job, so it's definitely worth a shot.

Giving Up On Rich Women Looking For Marriage

For almost six months now I've been trying to find the right wealthy dating site as my father has been searching for rich women looking for marriage. I've come across quite a few sites that looked very promising, only to be disappointed time and time again. There are a whole slew of reasons, the most common of which seems to be the sense that none of them are as legitimate as they're made out to be. There have been far too many stories of fake personals for me to trust any one site 100 per cent, but I'm not sure where someone else such as my father would look for love.

]]> The main reason I've been trying to find rich women looking for marriage is that my father is well off, in his mid-60s and looking to find a partner again. He's still working hard on his advertising business and really doesn't have any time to go out and meet people - and I highly doubt he has any inclination to go to the bar scene anyways. Some may be wondering why he is interested in rich single women specifically. Primarily, it's because my father has had some bad luck with women in the past when it comes to issues with money.

His first divorce left him completely broke and for the last 20 years he's been trying to rebuild. Now that he's finally on his feet, he's met too many gold diggers or rich and brainless ladies. Being duped or screwed over at his stage in life must be extremely frustrating, so I've resorted to checking out dating sites to try and filter out the bad seeds and find a great resource for him to check out.

However, six months of searching has proven fruitless. There were a few sites that looked very promising at first, but I quickly grew skeptical when I started looking into them more. Now that I've more or less exhausted my options, I'm afraid my hunt for rich women looking for marriage must come to an end. It's now up to him to find a woman of the same age and financial status, but I fear he may spend the best years of his life waiting for that special someone.

An Onslaught Of Pretty Asian Girls

Every now and then I like to go back to my old university campus where I can work in relative peace and quiet around other people who are in study mode. It really helps me focus. Lately I've stumbled across a real distraction though: pretty Asian girls. For some reason, at my university, there's an overwhelmingly large Asian population and a guy doesn't need any kind of Asian dating site to find a gal - or at least I don't think so.

]]> The reason I don't think I (or any other guy) would need to go online to find a pretty chick from the Far East is that if you go to the right places, they're often inundated with pretty Asian girls. However, I really don't have that much experience as far as Asian dating goes. For all I know I may be considered off limits for to many of these cute chicks because I'm a white guy in his mid-20s and there could be an issue as far as the age gap is concerned. I know that it's not uncommon for older guys to date younger women in many parts of Asia, but this could be an exception as many of these chicks seem to have adopted much more Western attitudes toward dating.

So if I'm a 20-something white guy, what are my chances of finding say, a Chinese angel for some casual dating? Of all the couples I see roaming around campus, I don't see too much interracial dating going on there. In fact, when I see pretty Asian girls, they're often paired up with an Asian guy. I get a sense of exclusivity when it comes to this particular dating scene, but I assume it's not limited to Asians by any means.

It may be that my best bet is to go for pretty Asian girls who are more accustomed to Western culture, or whose Eastern ideas of dating and sex are not as traditional as they once were. As it stands, it seems as though the Asian dating circle is like an impenetrable fortress and there's no way for me to gain access. I guess the only thing I can do is avoid the university library so that I'm not always tormented by the thought that it's highly unlikely I'll ever find an Asian girl to date.

A Sexy Angel And Ugly Demons: The Temptation To Cheat Is Hard To Beat

I think I'm in big trouble. The other weekend I dropped by the hardware store and couldn't help but notice the unbelievably sexy angel working the cash register. I was a bit taken aback, partly because I wouldn't expect to see such a gorgeous girl around my age working at a hardware store, but mostly because she wouldn't stop flirting with me. The reason I'm in trouble is that I have a steady girlfriend and I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize that. On the other hand, I've been dying for a little variation in my sex life and aside from sex dating sites this was the closest I've come to picking up a such a gorgeous girl.

]]> To clarify, I "came close" to picking her up, but didn't. When one of the other store clerks had to go check the price on something I was buying, I had the perfect opportunity to really start chatting her up and move beyond the timid flirtations. All I could muster, however, was smiling back at her. We held eye contact for almost an entire minute before the store clerk came back. On top of the fact that I have a girlfriend (which admittedly tends to slip my mind when being clearly hit on), I tend to become like a deer caught in headlights when a sexy angel locks eyes with me and gives me that undeniably suggestive smile.

It could be that I'm making a big deal out of nothing. Then again, what if it's not and the next time I need to pick up a few screws I end up screwing myself over by "forgetting" I have a partner and asking her out on a date. Thinking before I speak has never been one of my strong suits and I doubt any guy would have an easy time brushing off such an incredibly gorgeous chick. The only solution I can think of is to go to another hardware store - three miles away! It's pretty silly, but I've done much wackier things in the past to avoid an uncomfortable encounter with a woman or potentially cheating in relationships.

Aside from the very obvious problem right in front of me, this run-in with a sexy angel has got me thinking: could I ever cheat on my girlfriend for a brief fling? What if I end up loving her personality and things progress beyond casual sex? She's incredibly good at catching a lie. But most importantly, why am I so interested in another girl who I've never even had a conversation with when I have a gorgeous girlfriend? It's the last question that's really getting under my skin. As my partner and I have started having less and less sex, I can't help but wonder if it's my fault because I'm bored with her (or she's bored with me) or it's a bunch of other factors. When relationships become tedious - especially in terms of sex - and you make an effort to spice things up but fail, is it time to move on despite how much you hurt your partner?

Is Everlasting Love Just A Myth?

A much older person who I've always looked up to once told me that love does eventually fade no matter how perfect you think your partner is. This is quite a depressing thought and I wonder if his insight on the nonexistence of everlasting love is actually true. After meeting a great girl on a local dating site, things immediately became serious. I by no means wanted them to - sometimes relationships just happen that way!

]]> So after one month of dating, I find myself accidentally in love and I'm terrified to come out and tell her for fear that the feeling isn't reciprocated. However, I get the distinct impression she feels the same way. It's hard to pinpoint the moment I realized it. It might have been last Saturday morning when I woke up next to her while she was still sleeping and I found her absolutely gorgeous. She took my breath away and given we were connecting on such an emotional level over the past couple of weeks, I was sure she was the one.

I still am, so I contacted my dad, a guy I can always count on for good advice. He said quite bluntly: "Everlasting love doesn't exist." He doesn't claim to know all about love and considering he's on his third marriage, maybe he's not the best guy to go to if you want sound advice on building relationships. However, I had to inquire further and he seemed quite confident when he said that the most important thing to remember is that love will fade and what you have to keep in mind is whether you like the girl. After all, when the intense love is gone, you essentially have to be best friends.

Obviously I was disappointed with his answer, even though it really did make a lot of sense. I took to reading some books on relationships and marriage to get a better - if slightly less biased - opinion on the subject. It turns out my dad could have written his own book on the subject because most "experts" said the exact same thing he did! Now I have no other choice but to ask all those out there if there is such a thing as everlasting love or if it's just a pipe dream for romantics such as myself.

Trying To Keep Up With My Fit Girlfriend

It's about that time of year again when there's a chill in the air and getting outside for a run is that much more unappealing. When I first met her on a local dating site, we were both looking good, but recently I've been slipping a bit. I'm not bad in terms of taking care of myself and staying in shape, but my fit girlfriend just recently joined a gym and between my two jobs, I simply don't have the time to hit the weight room or the treadmill. Well, that's not entirely true. The few free moments I have are spent reading or watching TV. With the hockey season approaching, I highly doubt I'll be spending my free time maintaining or improving my physique.

]]> On top of it all, I'm a smoker as well - now up to almost a pack a day! That certainly doesn't help my case and I've tried quitting numerous times, but just can't seem to kick the habit. She's only a light smoker, which is probably why her daily jogs aren't such a pain for her. Now that we're living together, it's a lot easier to compare myself to her and find my faults. Moving in with the girlfriend is always full of surprises, but I never figured feeling really physically inferior to my fit girlfriend would be one of them.

With a packed daily routine, I really don't know what to do. I could run to work with my suit on, but I imagine my co-workers wouldn't appreciate working alongside a sweaty and potentially smelly guy all day long. It seems my only hope of getting in shape is to either cut back on work (though that's pretty much out of the question at the moment) or replacing my rest and relaxation time in front of the television with workout sessions (not an appealing thought). However, that seems like the only way I'm going to keep up with my partner!

A friend of mine recently made a suggestion and it might just be the only way to keep up with her. If we both join the same gym and make a point of going together at the same time, not only will I be able to get back in shape and not be one of those guys on the Montreal dating scene who everyone secretly thinks doesn't deserve the fit girlfriend he's partnered up with, but it will also help to ensure we never miss a gym date. So much for my hockey games!

A Sleepless Night With Two Lesbian Girls

If there are any guys out there wondering if they'd be able to get it on with a couple of lesbian girls, don't despair. I've discovered that it is indeed possible! Granted, you may find yourself trying for quite some time until you find a couple ready and willing to spice up their sex life by throwing a guy into the mix, but if you scour enough sex dating sites for a long enough time, there's a chance you'll hit the jackpot.

]]> It took me about a month of searching online dating pictures and chatting with a bunch of people before I finally found two hot lesbian girls who were interested in having some casual sex with a guy. I must say though, the number of rejections and rude comments were overwhelming. I guess I shouldn't have been too surprised, though. If a chick has listed herself as lesbian on her profile, she obviously doesn't want to be bothered by guys looking to have a threesome.

To be accurate, the lesbian girls who were interested in hooking up actually found me. It's possible that this really is the only way to score in this daunting endeavor. It turns out they were actually two sexy Italian babes and they hadn't even been together for too long, but had already discussed the possibility of having a menage a trois with a man. To be safe, we made sure to meet up at a cafe and chat in person before we made any decisions on where to go from there. Lucky for me, the decision was to go back to their place and get right to it.

They sure didn't waste any time! It was straight to bed and all the love making positions blew my mind! Sure, they had never been with a guy before, so they weren't the best at pleasing a man, but watching the two of them go at it certainly made up for their lack of experience. Another thing I somehow forgot about chicks is that they can go all night long with hardly a break. By the time the sun came up, I was utterly exhausted and didn't even make it into work. I certainly didn't have any regrets about missing a day's pay though!

The Wealthy Young Men Who Make Me Sick

I always dread coming home to my parents' house for dinner. No matter what I do, my mom thinks that I could have done better. When I was little, she would complain that I never earned enough gold stars like the other boys in our class. When I was in college, she would complain that I should follow in my father's footsteps and study law instead of journalism. Things have gotten worse now that I'm working. She complains that I'm not earning enough money because I chose to become a writer instead of a lawyer. The cherry on top? She often compares me to some of the book club ladies' sons because they're working as doctors, lawyers or whatever. I have asked her to stop comparing me to those wealthy young men, but I'm usually tipsy every time she starts nagging me. Alcohol makes me a little hard of hearing and unfocused, so it's difficult to get my point across when I need to tell her that I'm not really into wealthy dating.

]]> Mary, one of my classmates from back in high school, dated this guy named Armen. He's the kind of guy my mom is always comparing me with and I admit I do feel jealous of him sometimes. He's good-looking, drives a Porsche, lives in a posh apartment and he's a lawyer. Anyway, Mary once told me a story about him, which made me feel good about myself. Armen may be extremely wealthy and he may know how to speak four different languages, but he doesn't know what women want.

Mary once went out of her way and worked for four hours preparing a meal for Armen. As soon as Armen arrived, he told her to get dressed because they were going to have dinner with a client of his. She told him that she had prepared him dinner and all he said was that he'd spent months trying to woo this client and he was in the mood for some caviar and not homemade pasta.

Mary told me another story where she and Armen were making love when his phone suddenly rang. As soon as his phone started to ring, he quickly removed himself off of her and started talking to the person on the phone. It turned out it was a client of his, so she just left while he was busy on the phone. Mary and I laughed at that story and she told me that I may not be what my mother wants to me to be, but at least people like me.

Hopefully my mother doesn't nag me about how much I'm earning next time I'm home for dinner. I may not be a wealthy male like Armen or some of those pompous, wealthy young men she's constantly comparing me to, but at least I have a lot of great friends who make me wealthy in spirit. That way, I can honestly say that I'm one guy who is truly wealthy and educated.

The Things That Draw Me To An Ebony Beauty

My girlfriend and I watched some episodes from America's Next Top Model last weekend to unwind. She watches them because of the fashion, I watch because of the beautiful girls. We're watching the twelfth cycle and the girl we're rooting for is Teyona Anderson. We're really glad that she won that cycle. My girl thinks she's a strong walker and she's got the high fashion look that's in demand with designers right now. I think she's hot in that swimsuit, especially during their finale walk with all the oil glistening on her skin. We both agree though that Teyona has got the fierce ebony beauty that makes her memorable.

]]> There's something about black women that I find really alluring. Is it their skin as smooth as honey? Is it their strong personality? Is it their bewitching eyes? They always have great bodies. Whether they are curvaceous or lean, they really do have the best backsides on the planet! I usually can't help myself when I see an ebony beauty on the street. I have to casually turn my head as she walks past to see that beautiful bottom.

I've always fantasized about having a black girlfriend. In fact, I have a lot of male Caucasian friends who love black girls and are into black dating. There may be some people who frown at the sight of an interracial couple, but gone are the days when people think that a black woman can only date a black man. Its a good thing I live in the 21st century for if I lived way before Beverly Johnson came out on the cover of American Vogue, then I wouldn't have a great time trying interracial relationships.

I strongly believe that my girl and I will last, but if we don't, then I hope I can get myself an ebony beauty just like Teyona, Iman or Liya Kebede.

Nostalgic For Beautiful Spanish Women

One of the best experiences I've ever had was the year I spent living in Barcelona. I miss the delicious paella and strolling down Park Guell. The things I miss the most are the great people I met while studying in Pompeu Fabra and the beautiful Spanish women who I spent nights with in my small apartment. Well, if I could go back in time I would relive all the moments I had there studying, waiting tables at La Fonda del Port Olimpic restaurant and going out for tapas with those hot Spanish girls. Oh, how I long for those days when I was into the Latin dating scene in that festive city..

]]> Aside from olives and Seville oranges, Spain has produced some of the world's most beautiful women. For starters, Penelope Cruz and Paz Vega both hail from Spain. Top models Ines Sastre and Eugenia Silva also comes from Spain. I may not have met women who look exactly like them, but I did have a couple of Spanish girlfriends during my stay.

Tara and Luisa were stunning Spanish girls. I met Tara in class and she introduced me to her best friend Luisa. They have beautiful smiles and I'm drawn to both of them not just because they're hot, they both were really well-dressed and presented themselves well. Tara would mix pieces from Sita Murt and Julie Sohn with French designer pieces while I'd see Luisa wear something from Custo Barcelona mixed with something from Robert Cavalli. I enjoyed hanging out with these beautiful Spanish women as we go from one tapas bar to the next every weekend. We would watch some flamenco dancers at Park Guell first before having a late dinner. After eating and taking a stroll around town, we'd end the night by having a hot cup of chocolate and some tasty churros.

I dated Tara for a while before I left for home. Well, we know I won't be returning to Barcelona so we just ended it peacefully and our relationship receded to what I would call "a good friendship between exes." Our romance story may not be what you'll find in a romance novel, but we did have a really great time. We still communicate and she's happy that I'm currently dating someone. In fact, I'm really happy for her now that she married my buddy Ramon who I waited tables with back in La Fonda. This is how things should go between exes, one being happy for the other if they're with someone new. No dramatics, just two people who've moved on and are looking towards the future with or without someone new.

The Beautiful Gay Girl In Our Office

I arrived to work early one day and I had the chance to chat with Marjorie, our 19-year-old lunch lady. We talked mostly about how much we're looking forward to a relaxing weekend until we started talking about our love lives. I talked about how excited I am to bring my girl to what my buddies and I call "videogame night" and she talked about how pissed she is that her lover had canceled their plans to go hiking. I did advise her to dump "him" until she corrected me and said that her lover is actually a girl. It turns out that our beautiful lunch lady is actually a beautiful gay girl.

]]> Marjorie told me her love story is quite complicated. She fell in love with a 20-year-old woman named Kim who was in a previous relationship for four years. Kim was 16 years old then when she met her ex and that woman whom Marjorie described as a lesbian beauty was 18 at the time. Long story short, the woman was forced by her family to marry a guy they picked out for her so she had to end her love affair with Kim. Kim then met Marjorie and they became a couple. The ex found out about Marjorie and she's not happy about it. In fact, she's still looking for ways that she and Kim can remain a couple.

Well, I'm obviously stumped on how to advise her since this is new to me and I'm not a beautiful gay girl who had has any experience in these matters, although I did tell her to stick around Kim for a bit. Kim's ex doesn't have a claim on her now since she's married. I did tell Marjorie that things could get bumpy since Kim and her ex were in love for four years and that the latter was only forced to marry by her family. Kim might still be in love with her since they had been together for a long period of time, so Marjorie should prepare herself if Kim does go back to her. If that happens then she should just get back in the saddle after she heals. She's young and she's a beautiful girl anyway. Lesbian dating will be a breeze for her.

I don't know if that's the best advice I could give her since I haven't really experimented with gay dating. When I'm giving advise, I tend to imagine myself in the other person's shoes and think what I would have done if it were me in their place. Hopefully the ex leaves Kim and Marjorie alone so they can start anew.

My Encounter With An Italian Beauty In The Eternal City

My parents took me on a trip to Rome when I was twelve years old. Being a little kid at the time, I was more focused on eating all the pasta I could get my hands on. Add a couple slices of pasta and a few scoops of gelato, I grew up to be quite a chubby kid. Good thing I lost all that weight just in time for my trip back to The Eternal City last year. That time I went slow on the pizza and I took it easy with the malaga (rum raisin) gelato so I could be in good shape when I meet an Italian beauty on my Roman holiday.

]]> My girlfriend and I broke up at the time so I decided to visit my uncle who resides in Rome. They say that one must experience an adventure when in Rome so I decided to try my hand in Italian dating. You see, I've always had this Italian fantasy of meeting a principessa and we'd go and experience Rome to ourselves. Kind of like Roman Holiday where I'm Gregory Peck and she's Audrey Hepburn. It didn't happen though, but I'm still glad I was able to meet Alessandra who is a classic Italian beauty.

My uncle introduced me to Alessandra who happens to be his good friend's daughter. Allie, as she's fondly called, is the perfect Italian woman. She dresses impeccably, accentuating her assets with the clothes she wears. I was told this is called the "Italian sensuality." Every word that comes out of Allie's mouth is worth listening to. In fact, this makes her a great tour guide as she took me to see the Fontana di Trevi and the Piazza di Spagna. Italian women have great bodies too. They have curves in all the right places and an exotic allure that is irresistible. Can you imagine how lucky Italian men are? With all their flirting expertise, they sure can get any hot Italian woman they want.

I did enjoy what Rome has to offer, but in the end I'd rather spend touring it with the girl I left home. After a few days I said arrivederci to my uncle and to Allie and went back home. It was a good thing my girl was willing to take me back. Now that we know we can't live without each other, we've been planning our trip to The Eternal City to give ourselves our very own Roman holiday.

How To Capture The Most Interest From Girls

While some guys may have no trouble at all getting a date and making a good impression in order to get a chick in the sack, often times the hardest part is figuring out how to capture the most interest from ladies in the first place. From what I've been told, not only is this true when you're trawling at a bar or a club, but even more of a problem on sex dating sites. There are tons of guys online, so how does one go about reeling in a chick for some casual sex?

]]> Obviously, in order to capture the most interest online one has to go about things differently. It's not like meeting at a party or a pub. In both cases however, crafting a first impression is the most important thing to work on. If you're looking for some casual sex, this can be extremely difficult. If you're not looking for a second date - you have to woo her right off the bat in order to hit a home run. There's one basic technique I've found worked quite well in the past.

Acting as if you're not in any way interested in sex is one way to go, but it can be hit or miss. When you first meet a chick, regardless of whether you're looking for a one-night-stand or not, it's imperative to discuss innocent basics. That said, don't dominate the discussion! This is a major dating faux pas. While you shouldn't just stand their mute, everybody loves talking about themselves, so prompting her with questions about herself is a great way to show you're interested.

Once you've met with her face to face and have her talking, another way to capture the most interest from her is always making direct eye contact. I've actually looked this up and psychologically, it actually creates a sense of intimacy. When it's about that time to end the conversation, wait as long as possible for her to suggest a date or offer her phone number. If it's really late and she's planning on walking home alone, offer to walk her home because you want to make sure she's safe. Once she gets the impression you're an innocuous guy, there's little doubt she'll ask you to come inside and you're pretty much set for some casual sex.