Cupids Dating Blog

Getting A Shy Christian To Break Out Of Her Shell

I haven't been out on a date in a few weeks now, so I thought I'd take a look at a Christian dating site I had some luck with on Saint Patrick's Day. I met someone who seems really cool, but she's such a shy Christian that we still haven't met up in person yet. I've got a few ideas that might get her to come out of her shell, but in the back of my mind, I've got a bit of a bad feeling about this.

]]> Basically, a small part of me is worried that she's nothing but a Christian tease. In this case, I'm referring to how some people give you the impression that you will meet up soon, but then keep putting it off and off and off. It's not so much a Christian occurrence as it is a potential pitfall with dating sites in general. Some people just want the attention of another person, not to actually date. What makes them the tease is that they're not upfront about this with you and continue stringing you along.

I've dated some beautiful religious women before, so I know of a perfect date that should help me get her to take the next step. It's actually a pretty obvious one, when you think about. You simply ask to go to church with her and then offer to take her out to brunch (or dinner, depending when she goes) afterward.

When I first heard of this idea, I thought it was an awful one. After all, what shy Christian in her right mind would want you to go to her church for a first date? Her family would be there, after all, so in one sense, it's like taking a huge relationship step right from the get-go. The trick is to let her decide where to go. If she thinks that's awesome, then go to her church. If she thinks it's way too personal, then suggest either yours or a different church altogether.

The third option, which is what usually ends up being chosen, is that you have a traditional first date that's not religious in any aspect. I normally like to suggest something in the community dossier and pamphlets handed out at Mass. That way, it's still church-themed, so she'll still feel at ease, but it's not so official. All that leeway is great for helping a shy Christian feel like opening up, so if you're in the same position as me, then I suggest you try it out.

Settling For An Older Babe Doesn't Have To Be Considered Settling

A former professor of mine used to try an assortment of online hookup and matchmaker sites, but never met anyone that he could see himself settling down with. Once he hit the big 5-0, he figured he should stop being so picky and settle for someone closer to his age. His thought process was that the women he was dating were all too young for him and therefore not mature enough to make a serious connection. Meanwhile, he was worried that only ugly and low-energy women could be found on senior dating sites, so he really didn't want to settle for those services. He's glad he bit the bullet and started checking them out, though, because he totally met an older babe who keeps him on his toes.

]]> Magda is actually three years older than him, so he was extra reluctant to meet her in person. He told me that he's been kicking himself ever since, because had he known how amazing she is, he would have answered her first request and they could have started dating sooner. I tried to reassure him that it was just a weekend prior, but he still regrets missing that one date.

To give me an idea of what's so special about Magda, he showed me a picture of her. All I can say is "wow." Either 53 is the new 33 or this senior beauty is some sort of incredibly stunning exception. She likes to keep fit and it completely shows. She says it has also resulted in a high level of energy, so she is exactly what he's looking for in a date.

In some instances, my friend is a mature guy only in regards to his age. He still loves going to those big outdoor concerts you'd normally see overrun by teens and 20-somethings, he loves going to sports bars on game night and I've even heard that he goes to arcades to play Dance Dance Revolution. It'll take someone like Magda to keep up with him, so I really hope she likes him as much as he enjoys her company.

So far, the older babe has been doing just that. The one time she didn't agree to go with him to the bar was because she got them tickets to the actual game. Meanwhile, the official reason for having him over to her place on their third date is so that they can play a Zumba video game on the Wii Fit.

The morals of this week's lesson are that you shouldn't be needlessly picky and that it's really bad to stereotype someone. Learn to give someone a chance and you might find yourself in a relationship with an older babe or stud of your own who makes you very happy.

Beautiful Asian Women Who Make You Smile

The sight of beautiful Asian women always makes my friend giddy. For this reason, he cancelled his membership with his old dating site and joined one that focuses on Asian singles instead. He was born in Vancouver, but his parents are from Osaka, so he's looking for someone who's first or second-generation Japanese-Canadian, too. So far, he hasn't had any luck with those specifics, but he has met a first-generation Chinese-American who moved here to go to the same University that he studies at.

]]> In my neck of the woods, pretty Asian girls seem to be a dime a dozen, so it looks like he made a good call going online. Having met her in person during an impromptu double-date (we bumped into each other at the same chick flick), I can confirm that she's really pretty cool. She's not just book smarts, but also she has good common sense. Her sense of humor is fantastic and she's got an adorably addictive laugh. She's also quite pretty and has a lot in common with my friend.

I normally tend to date older Asian women whenever I date someone of Chinese descent, but that's only by coincidence. However, if there are more out there who are like my friend's new girlfriend, then I just might start dating all the beautiful Asian women whom I meet, regardless of their age!

Actually, calling her his "girlfriend" is too strong of a word. You see, he's actually met several beautiful Asian women online and she's just the one he dates the most often. The other women have apparently been just as amazing, but I suspect the fact that he dates her more frequently implies that he likes her the most. I don't know for certain if she feels the same way, but I certainly hope that's the case. They make the perfect couple.

Like a lot of people, I love hearing about successful dating escapades, particularly whenever the people meet up online first. It gives me hope for meeting that special someone. I know that for some people, trying out dating sites can be almost as daunting as going to bars to meet people. However, the success that my friend is having clearly shows that we don't ever have to feel that way.

Springtime Leads To French Kissing Demonstrations

I've got a friend who seems to excel at exactly three things in life. One involves winning $5 every time he plays a scratch card, another is being able to repair car engines like nobody's business and the third involves local online dating. While I can't believe he once managed to restore an antique car that broke down in 1907, I'm much more impressed by his dating life. I mean, he somehow managed to organize some sort of series of French kissing demonstrations and everything!

]]> Now, I don't mean that he picketed with signs raging against people who make out (that's my other friend. It's a story for another week). I mean he managed to get dates solely for the sake of making out in public. His whole shtick was that it's finally springtime, so he was looking for beautiful women to help him cheer the gloomier people up by having big, public French kissing demonstrations.

Doesn't that sound lame? Well, not to seven women, it didn't! Most of his French kissing demonstrations were held in places that wouldn't have people opposed to this sort of thing. One was in the middle of a park, another was in the middle of a busy café (but not in the way of the busy line) and another was during a concert. The only one that probably would make people annoyed was when they made out in the middle of a bike path, but as it ended up being a case of romance in the rain, the weather made it so that it was the least seen of all his escapades.

Apparently, I must be one of the gloomy winter people he's trying to cheer up. I'm really glad that it's spring now, I love that people's moods are rising with the longer hours of sunlight and it always puts a smile on my face when April showers seem to bring office romance between coworkers before it does May flowers. However, I find public make out sessions to be a bit arrogant.

It's one matter to kiss and then have it lead to things getting a bit hot and heavy, but consciously trying to draw attention to the fact that you're making out with someone is just rubbing it in their face. I've known some jerks who like to do that, but it annoys me more-so today on account of how I'm single at the moment. Still, I must admire my friend for having such adventurous dates, especially since they all seem to lead to second ones. I guess I should consider organizing a few French kissing demonstrations, myself.

A Passionate Night With A Beautiful Sexy Bride

They say that online sex dating can sometimes lead to unexpected and unpleasant surprises. In my experience, that's often caused by someone putting up a really outdated photo of themselves. Last night, I had an unexpected surprise, but it certainly wasn't an unpleasant one. You see, last night I had the pleasure of sleeping with a beautiful sexy bride.

]]> And oh, what a sexy bride she is! I was actually a little stunned to hear her story. It turned out that she just got married to a guy who already fails to satisfy her in the bedroom. She at first thought it was just stress from their engagement and an upcoming work promotion he was striving for, but now that the two have tied the knot, she sees that he's just not all that great.

She still greatly loves her husband and has no desire to leave him. It's just that she has certain needs, so the occasional hot love affair is all she wants in order to get her mind off things. And to, you know, get off. She wanted absolute discretion and claimed that whoever she hooked up with would probably never see her again after that one time.

Hearing about one successful sex story after another through various friends, as well as never really making it all that far with my recent string of dates, I had been found wanting a little no-strings fun myself. It didn't take me long to convince her that I was exactly the guy she was looking for.

Admittedly, I left out some details in my persuasion. While it's true that I also do some work in the porn industry, I never claimed it was as one of the performers. I also never claimed that I wasn't when I saw that's what she was assuming. I also didn't correct her when she assumed I was currently a successful business man (yes, I graduated from a school known for its marketing programs, but I was not in any of their business courses).

That's part of the fun sex dating, in my opinion. Arguably, I lied to her, but the only truth either she or I are interested in is much more carnal. Take this as two lessons. One is that not everything you read online is true and the other is that it's fun to live out a fantasy. I mean, for all I know, she may have not even been the beautiful sexy bride she implied she was. Do I care? Nope! I still had a blast!

Beautiful Rich Women Willing To Take Care Of A Poor Man

Does anybody know some beautiful rich women willing to take care of a poor man by any chance? My job is fulfilling work wise, but the industry that I work in is going through one of its slow periods again. This means not as much profit for The Man, which in turn means smaller raises and fewer bonuses for me. All this is fancy talk for "I be broke, yo!" What doesn't help is that my best friend won't stop talking about this gorgeous woman that he met online through a millionaire dating service and that he wants to introduce her to me. I'm going to have to double-date at the restaurant where two rich people like to go on top of having to pay for my date's meal, too? I can literally see the moths flying out of my wallet now.

]]> How does this factor in to me wanting to find rich women willing to take care of a poor man? It's the exact, selfish reason you're imagining. For a change, I really want someone to pay my way. I want to get wined and dined. I want to be the one who surprised by fancy, expensive presents. Why does it always have to be me who pays for literally everything, when I'm always the one making the less money?

Ok, so I fully acknowledge that all this sounds like nothing but screechy whining. I don't care. This is 2012, people! Has the feminist movement seriously still not progressed far enough so that a rich chick can pay for a guy, yet?

I've heard that rich women seeking young men get a bad reputation. Why? Simply because they're not rich guys seeking young women, instead. That's gender discrimination, people! If there are rich women willing to take care of a poor man out there, then they should be allowed to with neither the women nor the guy having to fear being looked down upon.

I really don't get society's stigma about women paying their own way and for the way of their dates. In situations like mine, if I know I can't afford to do what's expected of me, then I'll literally not go on a date. This frustrates me, because it prevents me and my dates from having a good time and, worse still, possibly missing out on an opportunity to literally fall in love. So don't be so judgmental, people! Let the daters decide the rules of their dates!

Know When To Get Relationship Counseling

There's a sitcom that started a few months back called "New Girl." It stars Zooey Deschanel as her type casted role of the quirky woman. And by "quirky," I mean "man, what an oddball!" They're fun to watch on TV (and I'm totally hooked on the show), but real-life quirky people can be rather trying on the nerves at times. Take my friend for example. He met a girl on one of the bigger online dating sites out there and, as much as he liked her, they didn't hit it off enough for her to want a second date. However, she is up for some relationship counseling with him.

]]> This may seem cute and quirky to some, but according to my copy of relationships for dummies, you normally want to save relationship counseling for later on when you're actually serious about someone and the two of you have real issues to deal with. Ok, so I don't actually have a book called that, but I still think that seeing a shrink together as a second date is inappropriate.

I think it bothers me because all I can think about is how a couple with a serious problem that needs to be addressed will have to wait for another appointment while these two play at needing relationship advice. Relationship counseling is a serious thing, so it irks me quite a bit to see them taking it so lightly.

My buddy likes this girl because he's pretty quirky himself. However, even he feels a little uncomfortable with the idea of getting an actual therapist and spilling the beans about his life in front of not one, but two strangers. If I were him, I wouldn't be giving this a second thought. Instead, I'd have been really fine with the idea of not going on that second date.

He admits that he might still give it a try, but if it turns out to be an honest-to-God couples therapy session, then there will not be a third date. If there's a quirky twist to it, then he's hoping to have more dating adventures with this new girl in his life. Good for him. I'm going to restrict my Zooey Deschanels to the television, thank you very much.

A Hot Christian Date For The St. Patrick's Day Parade

I don't know what made me check out a Christian dating site the other week, but I'm pretty glad that I did. I was looking online for a date to the St. Patrick's Day parade (which was randomly held the day after, instead). Long story short, I managed to score a hot Christian Date for the event.

]]> Like me, she's got plenty of Irish ancestry in her background, so when I playfully pointed that out about us, she agreed that we both had to be present at the parade. You know, to celebrate our traditions and such. Of course, no St. Patrick's Day is complete without shamrock shakes and green-colored beer. Also, you have to wear a disgusting amount of green clothing.

With that in mind, I was actually surprised by the turn of events that transpired. First, my hot Christian date and I went to McDonald's for their annual shamrock shakes. We also went way too early for it, so the machine hadn't properly chilled them, yet. Sure, it was still digestible and all (doesn't that sound appetizing?), but it was more like cream of green soup with peppermint.

Fun fact: some bars open a lot earlier than normal on St. Patty's Day. Like the one across the street from the McDonald's. Feeling bloated from our green soup, this lovely Christian girl suggested we head there for our green beer right away so that we could get a place in line for the parade. That ended up being mistake number two.

One emerald stout led to another and, before too long, both my hot Christian date and I were way too bloated to even hit up the parade. Instead, we somehow ended up at her place where she cooked us dinner many hours later. In the meantime, we cuddled up on her couch and watched the parade on TV. By this point, we weren't wearing as many green clothes as we did at the start of the day, but I'm sure the color of our cheeks made up for this.

It wasn't a total loss, however. This religious beauty had as much fun during our misadventures as I did, even though we both got major stomach aches. In fact, she had me stay the night. Hopefully, this will lead to many more adventures in the future, preferably ones without us feeling so green.

Reminiscing About A Large Woman I Used To Date

Back when I was still fairly overweight, I used to date a large woman whom I had met on one of several BBW dating sites I was trying out at the time. None of the sites really impressed me, but I was still fairly new to online dating, so it was my own fault for not having enough cash to really take advantage of any of their good features. I don't fully regret spreading my wallet so thinly, though, because she ended up spending the cash to talk with me and we hit it off pretty well.

]]> People often make the mistake of assuming that beautiful big women aren't the same as regular women. This always struck me as odd, because the only difference is in their bodyweight. Yes, I have met a large woman with some serious psychological issues, but I've met many more skinny Minnies who had their own baggage to deal with, too.

I'm getting a bit off point. Anyway, this was a hot BBW woman I was dating. Yeah, she weighed a few pounds more than the average lady, but as all so-called "chubby chasers" know, that can be a real turn-on depending on the woman's personality.

This babe had more personality than you could shake a stick at, so we hit it off immediately. She had tons of energy, a great personality and best of all, she also had tons of confidence. That last trait is something everybody should have, regardless of how heavy they are, what their age is or even what their income level is at. If you have enough confidence, then no shortcoming (whether an actual one or just one you perceive about yourself) will impact your ability to function in social settings.

I speak from experience. A few years back, I let my failings shatter my self-worth. Not feeling like I was good enough made it so that I distanced myself from others and even missed out on all sorts of life experiences because I thought I'd fail at them. I'm literally seeing this in a woman I just finished dating, who believed it best to stop dating because there's no way a guy like me would ever settle for a large woman like her.

In other words, she is the exact opposite of the large woman I used to date and is preemptively dumping me in order to protect herself from what she perceives to be inevitability due to her unhappiness with her own weight. Who knows how much fun we could have had together if not for her lack of self-confidence? This just proves that you need to love yourself before you can love others.

Dating A Black Cutie

If you've been reading my blog posts over the last few months, you'll have learned that I joined a gym and am being fairly diligent (and arguably successful) in getting myself into shape. I've also blogged about my experiences there and how I keep striking out. This time around is no different, but my friend actually managed to get lucky with a lovely black cutie. However, if we're being completely honest here, he first met her on a black dating site.

]]> My buddy joined it because he wasn't having any luck meeting black girls in person. Long story short, he met the black cutie that he's currently dating and we went on a double date one time. My date and I did not hit it off in the least, but my friend and his did. The two get along so well, in fact, that they sometimes work out together.

Training with a dating partner isn't the same as training with a workout partner, which is why he came along when he heard that I was going to be doing some strength training. She and her friend were also there by coincidence, so we ended up training as a foursome using side-by-side machines. I don't know if it was a mix of adrenaline and seeing each other sweating, grunting and wearing tight clothing, but one thing led to another and they decided to go do some cardio by themselves. At home. In the bedroom. You see where I'm going with this.

That left her ebony beauty of a friend all alone with me, so I did my best to chat her up while we were on the elliptical machines. That didn't work out so well. It started off nice enough, but there's a reason why it's tough to maintain a conversation during cardio. After a few minutes in, I was huffing and puffing harder than normally. Finally, I couldn't talk at all and by the end of the routine, my breathing was so labored that I must have looked rather sickly.

I asked if she wanted to go get a coffee or something, but unsurprisingly, this black cutie totally turned me down. A man dripping with sweat can be sexy in the right circumstances, but not when combined with painful-looking, heaving gasps for breath. Plus, it was our first time meeting each other, so it wasn't exactly a good first impression. Next time, I'll follow my buddy's lead and save the gym dates for a few weeks in.

Big Man On Campus And In Bed

I have a friend who finally went back to finish her degree. Since she's got adult needs but no time for a relationship, she spends her free time scoping out hunks on online sex hookups or works the study-related stress out of her system by hitting up the campus gym. The result of the latter is that she has a killer body, so she never has problems meeting her ideal version of a big man (meaning both muscular and well-endowed) on those sites.

]]> I guess that means she's officially given up on fixing a broken relationship with her ex and I say good for her! The guy was a total jerk and never had the energy to do anything other than hang out at her apartment. She later found out that his constant lethargy was caused by the fact that he would come over after having sex with another woman. What a creep!

Ironically, while she's not on the hunt for a new relationship, she may have just found one anyway. Her only criteria for meeting a man was that he be sexually attractive and understand that she's too busy with her studies for anything other than the occasional night of hardcore action under the sheets. The sexy guy that she's hooking up with meets the physical criterion without any problems. He also has no problem with her sex-friend schedule, since he's in the same predicament.

No, literally. It turns out he's in the same semester of the same program at the exact same school as her. The only difference is in the class schedules and in a handful of professors. Apparently, they even had a class together in the previous semester and just never met each other because it was a huge lecture hall with hundreds of students.

How does all this translate to relationship potential? Well, since they have the same passions (double entendre totally intentional, by the way), they actually talk a bit about what they like and study during cuddle time. Did I mention she only does that with this particular big man? She's met hotter guys online, but she's out the door as soon as they're finished. With this guy, they even have study dates –along with plenty of "study breaks" too, I'm sure.

Regardless of whether their relationship develops into a loving one or not, I wish the two of them all the best. It takes courage to go after what you want in this day and age, especially when what you want is just sex. Thanks to the Internet, my friend just found at least that in the big man she's bonking.

I'm Going To Become A Rich Old Man Even If It Kills Me!

I got a raise a couple of months ago, but it wasn't anywhere near what I was expecting (which, admittedly, is always lower than one actually hopes for). This put me down in the dumps on account of how I couldn't afford take women to the more fancier establishments in my city. If a run-down burger joint is called "The Five Stars Diner," does it count as a fancy restaurant? Because until I finally become a rich old man, then it's starting to look like anybody I meet on the affluent dating sites will be taken there for dinner.

]]> That would be followed up by an elegant trip to the museum, of course. After all, I'm just poor, not uneducated or uncivilized. Plus, access to the museum is free. I know this all sounds terrible, but as most of the general populace knows, getting rich is a lot harder than just putting in a bunch of effort. I work really hard for 40 hours a week and have nothing to show for it. I've even done some freelance on the side and am considering getting a second job. Meanwhile, my friend who is better-off than I am pulls in triple what I earn and works only 20 to 30 hours a week.

Short of flat-out choosing to seduce wealthy people like my friend, chances are that I will not be dying a rich old man. I doubt I'll be below the poverty line, but that doesn't mean I can't be happy. In fact, things might change as early as this weekend.

Uh, just to clarify, I'm not saying that I'll be dead by the end of the week. Unfortunately, I'm also not saying that I'll be rich (unless that lotto ticket comes through, that is). What I am saying is that I've got a date with beautiful woman lined up. She makes a lot of money for someone her age and works in the same field as I do, so I'm hoping we hit it off for several reasons. One is that she's hot, another is that we have a lot common and a third is money-related.

That last part sounds greedy, I know, but it's not a matter of wanting her cash. I like that I might learn some tricks of our trade from her, as well as could potentially make some good networking connections. You see, being wealthy is more than just having money. It's about making money and knowing other people who do, too. If I can find a partner who can help me accomplish this, then I will definitely be a rich old man when I die and have a lot of fun along the way, too.

Maybe I'm The One Who Needs Advice On How To Romance A Woman

I find it funny when a friend of mine asks me how to romance a woman. It's especially funny when they do so for Valentine's Day. You know what I did yesterday? It involved eating lots of chocolate. Oh, and I'm not talking about heart-shaped ones from a long-term girlfriend, either. I'm talking leftover Santas and snowmen from Christmas. Why was I alone? Because I'm single, people! You wouldn't get as many personal blog posts about all the women I meet if I were in a serious, ongoing relationship. Unless I hit up some online matchmaking services, I'm likely not meeting anybody who I would call a flame.

]]> That's not to say that I don't know how to romance a woman, but I really find it strange that I'm everybody's go-to guy for this kind of advice, when I'm usually the one who's single. Admittedly, I've set up dates in the past that are something straight out of a romance story before, both in past relationships and for a friend's wedding proposal. However, I'm normally much too casual of a person to go the romantic route, especially for women who I'm in still in the "just dating" phase with.

I've always maintained that good relationships are built on honesty and communication, so for those of you looking for advice on how to romance a woman for Valentine's Day (or I suppose for forgetting about V-Day, since you're reading this now), plainly ask what she wants. I know that sounds unromantic, but it makes for a combination of misdirection and showing you pay attention to what she cares about.

If she says she wants something like dinner, take her somewhere you always go to that's nice enough, but then take her somewhere very fancy (if she's into that) for dessert. Also, make it so that the fancy restaurant has gifts (can't go wrong with the classic: flowers and chocolates) waiting for her at the table. If she says breakfast in bed, then go all out with pancakes, bacon and eggs, hash browns, toast, English muffins and fresh fruit. You'll end up with wasted food, but she'll love the extravagance of it all.

Basically, you want to let her think she knows she's going to get something typical for Valentine's Day, but then the romance comes from you by switching up to something unexpected. Ladies, this works for romancing guys, too. After all, everybody loves to be treated like they're extra special. If somehow all of this falls flat, then I guess I really don't know how to romance a woman, after all.

Stay Away From My Workout Partners You Arab Muscle Men!

Thanks to having a workout buddy to go with, I bit the bullet and finally got a gym membership. I'll freely admit that I was pathetic in the amount of weights I was lifting and the amount (or lack thereof) of high-intensity cardio I could handle before having to cut back. The reason I'm ok admitting this is because I've been doing some solo sessions in the evenings so that I could catch up to that workout buddy's level. However, my gym is filled with Arab muscle men who bogard all of the exercise machines and also all of the women. Seriously guys, can't you please just keep to the athletic dating sites until I'm in some better shape?

]]> It's not that I'm all that gung-ho on exercising yet, but I would like to find a free elliptical machine and don't exactly want all that competition when it comes to pumping iron. I'm in the early stages here, so to struggle while benching 90lbs looks friggin' ridiculous when the guys on either side of you are bench pressing over 300lbs. That fit cutie I eyed on the Saturday mornings when I worked out with my buddy didn't exactly have her gaze back on me Monday evening.

It's rough because I know a good half of the people there aren't really there to get in shape or keep healthy. Many people who hit the gyms are good-looking people already and are looking for others. There are lots fit women seeking men and Arab muscle men seeking those fit women at my gym, which I'm embarrassed to admit makes me feeling a bit inadequate.

Those at my gym who aren't like the Arab muscle men I'm describing can feel quite alienated at a gym like mine, especially if you don't have a workout partner, so it sucks whenever a woman is comfortable enough to be your impromptu cardio buddy, only to have a fitter dude steal her away. For this reason, I tend to work out in the mornings with a guy friend and save my dating life for the online community.

One trick I heard and fully intend on trying out is meeting someone on a fitness dating site and planning a workout session together. When it becomes more serious that way, apparently both you and your date tend to focus on spotting each other instead of letting other athletes distract you. I hope so, because I am sick of these Arab muscle men seducing every woman I meet!

Muslim Doctor Seeks Muslim, Cute, On Muslim Site

I've got a mutual friend who is feeling like nobody dates him for him. In a post-9/11 world, he's come across plenty of people who either ostracize him for being a Muslim or even flat-out call him a terrorist. Things have gotten better over the years, but since then, he completed his medical degree. Nowadays, everybody respects him, but he fears that the people he meets are only treating him with respect because of his status as a successful medical practitioner. This has caused him to start using Muslim dating sites, where he hopes to find a Muslim, cute woman.

]]> From what I've heard, things didn't start off so well. It was his first time dating online, so his list of absolute traits included that any woman he meet must be Muslim, cute, witty, educated, open-minded, athletic, employed, be a fan of Shakespeare and the arts. That may not seem overly specific to some of you, but keep in mind that he would skip over countless Muslim girls if their profiles didn't mention all of these facts.

Let this be a lesson on how you search through your online prospects. I'm a fan of Shakespeare, too (well, some of his works), but I don't think I've ever put that on my profile. There are plenty of things I don't put and the same goes for most people I know. When you overload a profile page with content, it can come across as you being someone who talks way too much. It also makes lazy readers move on to the next person's profile.

On top of this, not every beautiful Muslim girl is going to list she's Muslim, cute or any other obvious trait. Would you say you're Jewish if you were on a Jewish dating site? It's redundant. Meanwhile, positively describing one's looks usually gives off the impression that one is full of oneself. Finally, describing everything about themselves in their profiles means that when the two of you do go on that first date, you'll have nothing new to learn about them.

Basically, you want to give enough information about yourself so that you attract people into going on that first date, but not too much as to push them away from contacting you. As for when you surf through profile pages, you want to take what you read with a grain of salt and expect that there's a lot more to them than what they wrote about themselves. That way, you don't run the risk of skipping over Muslim, cute dates (or any prospective date) who might be perfect for you.