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August 28, 2006
A Couple Moves
There seems to be a lot of joy involved in buying a new home. I saw that this weekend. I blogged before about my friend who just purchased a new home with his girlfriend. This past weekend, I helped them move in. I haven't spent much time with the two of them before -- and it was a real eye opener.
They are so good together! Mind you, they were in the middle of what is probably one of the most exciting events in a couple's life. Everyone is excited. Everyone is hugging and kissing. The world looks brighter from all angles! But even considering all that, there was a connection between the two of them that I have never seen before with any of my friends' girlfriends.
I was having a discussion this past week with a friend who suggested that I wasn't giving the people that I date enough chances. My argument was that I know what I don't want and I've been finding plenty of that. It's a common belief that people who find true love “just know it.” I've come to the conclusion that despite having loved many people in my life, I've never found someone that matches this description. I always thought by the time I hit 30 that I would be with the person that I would spend the rest of my life with. I still have a few more months to go but it's looking rather bleak right now. I'm not as worried about it as I was in my twenties - being with someone who looks like the one I will marry. But it's still inspiring to see others who have finally found someone that fits. I’m glad I had the chance to see that this weekend…
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at August 28, 2006 12:23 PM
Comments
It's good to have that 'special someone' in our life when we're young, getting older and in our dotage (the feelings are still the same whether you're 16 or 60.) Although it isn't necessary for that 'special someone' to be the same guy or gal. People change. We're never the same person when we go to bed at night as we were when we got up that morning. So, is it surprising that we wake up in bed one day with 'a complete stranger' who says things we don't like and does things we don't want?
It's important to identify both what we want, and don't want, in a partner. However, we can be too specific and, in being so, lose sight of the fact that people can and do change.
Also, people are seldom what they seem to be on the surface so it's important to get to know them and not judge at face value. And you might just find out that something you don't like about them is actually what they don't like about themselves. With your help and support, they could be happy and willing to change.
Now, I'm not saying that glaring differences should be ignored. I could never live with an alcoholic or a heavy smoker for instance. What I am saying is 'don't sweat the small stuff'.
And going back to where I came in. If you miss out on having that special someone in your life while you're young, hey, so what? You still have the rest of your life to get your love life right online.
Don't misunderstand me here, I just adore those wonderful love stories where boy meets girl and they live happily ever after - and several of my old school chums seem to have achieved that fairy tale romance -
Posted by: Annie Roy-Barker at September 8, 2006 4:24 AM
