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July 26, 2007
A Religious Fantasy
Cynicism is the name of the game when it comes to the 21st Century, at least for a lot of us city slickers. It's easy and comforting to hide behind a nice, thick duvet of cynicism to help the daily stress of the average day drift by. The Big Disdain applies to a lot of the dating world as well - it's easy to forget about lofty romantic ideals when and if you're going on one too many bad dates. Maybe a healthy dose of idealism or lofty beliefs would get some of us out of this snarky stupor. While I'm not practicing, sometimes I wish that I had continued to follow my religious background, if for nothing else than the solid community that comes along with it. It's a religious fantasy which also applies to dating - the Christian dating community is as strong as God's will, and they seem to be having a good time.
Some kind of religious framework would certainly make random dating craziness a little less, well, crazy. Not that a magic wand would make the occasional bad dates disappear, but a healthier outlook towards the foibles of random idiots would certainly be welcome around my neighborhood. I don't think that I would be able to dismiss bad experiences as God's will every single time unpleasant things happen (note to readers: I am not implying that religious people do otherwise), but a more benevolent attitude to the entire spectrum of the world (including idiotic dates) might be helpful.
Finding words of love would likely be easier once the cynicism gets dropped. The little critic that lurks in the hearts of all cynics (myself included) will find fault with any emotional statement, and there's always a nagging suspicion that even basic stuff like "I love you" sounds corny and cliche. It's exhausting!
All cynicism all the time (i.e. a permanent chip on the shoulder) leads to no romance. Hanging around an utterly cynical person is kind of like tequila - fun in small doses, horrible poison in massive quanitites. Maybe religion isn't the quickest cure for snarky sarcasm, but a little idealism (religous and/or secular) would definitely put a little spring into the steps of many city dwellers.
Posted by Glen at July 26, 2007 2:56 AM
