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December 22, 2007
A Senior Man Seeking Love
Across the street from me lives a senior man whose company I've come to enjoy as of late. His name is Charles and he lost his wife to cancer about five years ago. Never one to complain, Charles has spent the last few years alone, but our conversations of late have led me to believe that he's ready to start sharing his life with someone again. I've been talking to him a little bit about senior dating sites and I believe he's starting to warm up to the idea. Charles is a smart senior man and he knows that if he doesn't want to be alone anymore he's going to have to get out of his comfort zone a little bit. I'm sure he'll have absolutely no difficulty with women. He's a good looking older man and he's lived a fascinating life. He'll have much to share with whoever it is that he finds.
I wondered how difficult it must be for a senior man, or a senior woman to meet someone later in life. Letting go of someone is never easy and it must be so very hard to let go of the person you shared so much life with and then allow someone else into your life. Charles talks a lot about his wife, how she was when she was alive. She must've been an incredible woman as his eyes light up every time he mentions her. They traveled all over the world together, watched history unfold together and shared a lot of life. I can see that he misses her, but I can also see his excitement, as reserved as it may be, when we discuss the idea of him going out on a date.
At this point in his life, Charles has no lack of romantic date ideas. He's got so much experience with romance that it's all I can do to refrain from bringing a pen and paper with me when I go to visit him. I should be writing this stuff down, I really should. While I know that, being a senior man, looking for a partner can seem a somewhat daunting proposition, I know that my friend has even more advantages than I do in this venture. He's an interesting senior man with amazing life experiences. He knows who he is, he likes who he is and he knows where he would like to be and what he would like to be doing for the rest of his life. I don't have too many other friends who are as confident of their place in this world than my friend Charles. I'm quite sure he's going to have a lot of fun finding someone to share the rest of his wonderful life.
Posted by MarkJohn at December 22, 2007 2:19 AM
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as a senior man (61) and divorced for the past 3+ years, dating women hasn't been a problem. my biggest challenge is finding age appropriate women i find physically attractive enough. my ex was 45 when we split. she is smart, stunning, slender (5'5", size 2-4), athletic, not to mention someone i really enjoyed being with. (so why are we divorced? long story that isn't about to be undone.)
i've found few women in their 50's attractive physically and more significantly, they all seem to have personal quirks at this stage/age that are distinctly unattractive. (i'm sure i've got a few of my own, too!)
another challenge is sex. women in their 50's still want it - as much or more than ever. while there is still interest on my part, getting hard is a problem and the little blue pill and its cousins have unpleasant side affects.
the net for me is i often wonder if i should just accept the fact that my best sex days are behind me and i'm likely to spend the rest of my life alone. fortunately, i don't mind being along so the prospect isn't as daunting as i know it might be for others.
Posted by: don at December 26, 2007 7:12 PM
