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June 6, 2007
A Special Ex Wife
Nowadays, many would say divorce is as much a part of marriage, as is compromise and love. That sounds as if I'm being a tad facetious, which of course I am. However, if you haven't caught on, even when I'm critical of others, I'm really just being critical of myself. I am by far the last one to judge anyone's failed relationship.
Let me tell you my reactions to breakup previously have been far from being as sophisticated and mature as I would have liked. Last week in fact, several exes seemed to pop out of the woodwork all at once. I actually had a bit of chitchat last week with one of my exes with whom things ended particularly badly.
Usually, we just banter back and forth, or more precisely, I still get tongue-tied, while my ex makes fun of me in subtle ways, such as paying more than a few backhanded comments. This last time, I held my own finally. I guess time does begin to make you stronger again.
The icing on the cake is that a couple days later, I finally spoke to the fellow who shares in my ex's new relationship. I had felt animosity thrown my way from him before, but thought he was protective of my ex. Getting your ex back is only possibility, if you didn't burn all bridges after being left behind, so I was one bridge burner unworthy of jealousy. At any rate, I didn't hold my own with the new guy.
First, he took my barstool while I was outside smoking. He gave it back after a rather large production, even though I insisted I should stand. He left his coat on the back of my chair, but said he'd keep his eye on me to be sure it was safe. Jokingly, he asked if I had gone through his pockets while he was visiting the restroom and pretended to check his coat to be sure.
When I ordered another beer, he asked if I was driving and when I said no, he explained 70 percent of pedestrian accidents are alcohol-related, even if I was far from tipsy. Finally, when he left, he tipped me a dollar for being his coat check. I have to say, it made me reconsider the jealousy theory of others.
It makes that story in Vanity Fair featured on Entertainment Tonight and reported on in USA Today (04/30/07) about Bruce Willis vacationing with ex wife Demi Moore and her new husband Ashton Kutcher all the more poignant. The same trip with my ex and the new obnoxious boyfriend might earn me some tips from carrying their bags, but no happy-sappy vacation pics.
Posted by Will at June 6, 2007 2:08 AM
