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September 28, 2007
An "Older Mature" Man Or Woman Is Not A Redundancy
Managing an inter-generational relationship can be much more tricky than navigating any of the many seniors dating sites out there. However, I'll give you a bit of advice to avoid some confusion. In my experience, pursuing relationships with men outside my age bracket (which I define as being greater than 10 years on either end of the spectrum), I've learned that one cannot equate age with maturity. Describing someone in a profile as an older mature man or woman isn't being redundant.
In my situation I've discovered plenty of older men who were anything but mature. They had all the negatives in terms of their physical state and none of the positive aspects that should come with a person with their degrees of life experience and knowledge.
Is there anything more unattractive than an older mature man who still doesn't have his shit together? On the other hand, there's nothing sexier than a guy in his 20s who's focused on his future with strong goals and ambitions (with space left open for that special gal of course).
I used to think that people shouldn't go outside their age bracket when looking for that significant other. However, since I've learned that age and maturity are completely separate matters, I no longer make judgments when I see a woman with a much older man, or, more increasingly, the opposite. My folks have been together for more than 30 years and my father has nine years on my mom. I also have a friend whose parents are 19 years apart in age and they've been together for even longer.
The gap in years is not what's important. I get turned off when an older mature guy treats me like he knows better, or fails to view me as a grown-up. It's simply not a smart idea to categorize people because they're older or not as old as you. The secret to inter-generational relationships is seeing beyond the age gap. What's important is that there aren't huge gaps in mentality, or major differences in beliefs, values and likes/dislikes. You may be different in age, but if you can find common ground in areas more significant to a lasting relationship, you're sure to bring yourselves closer together.
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Posted by Kat at September 28, 2007 2:00 AM
