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February 23, 2007
Can Teenage Relationships Last?
I’ve often wondered what would have happened had one of the relationships I had in my teenage years gone the distance. They will always stand as some of the most powerful relationships on record. Was it that the connections were so good? Would I have been happy years later after we’d grown up and become adults? These are some good questions I think every teen needs to ask themselves these days when romance comes around.
Trying something for the first time is a powerful experience. Skiing, for example, was difficult and exhilarating. Yet after years of practice, it became easy and no longer held such strong appeal for me. The same thing happened when I first started learning how to ride a motorcycle. Every ride was a rush. These days, it’s still fun, but a trip to the corner store on two wheels is now just an errand that I can do while looking like a star. Likewise, when I first began to fall for girls in my teenage years, be it lust or puppy love, those relationships were all I could think about. They consumed me to the point of fanaticism. Ah, those were good days! But were my feelings so strong because the girls I met were so right? The answer is no. I think it’s more like my first time on the slopes. It’s fantastic at first because everything is so new. But eventually that powerful, all-consuming feeling wears off. What happens then?
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Serious relationships go the distance. When you’re young, you have only had a handful of relationships, and they’re nothing like what you get to experience when you become adults. No amount of relationship advice books can prepare you for the experience of dealing with love while you’re growing up. Everything is different. There is still so much growing left to do that people almost always seem to grow apart. I look to the people I dated in my teenage years and they aren’t the kinds of people I would consider dating these days. Although great people, I know that they weren’t right for me in the long run. I still talk with a few of them and the magic, although still there, isn’t the same. Had those teenage relationships lasted, they surly would have ended in disaster. True, if you spend your time together, there’s the possibility that you’ll grow together. However, you may be growing in a relationship that isn’t as fulfilling as many others. Some may argue that this “grass is greener on the other side” approach will lead to unhappiness and a lack of contentment. However, I think the average teen will learn what they’re looking for over time. But they can’t do that in a relationship that they’ve been in before they really come into themselves.
Can teenage relationships last? I’m just an arm-chair relationship guru, but I say for sure they can. Is that a good thing? I’d say in most cases the answer would be no. We live in a different world now than generations before. It’s not better or worse for teenage romance. It’s just different. And as for those relationships I had when I was in grade school and high school, it’s true that they have come and gone. Despite not having an interest in pursuing any of them today, I wouldn’t trade those experiences for the world. Those teenage relationships will last forever for me, but only where things so new can remain perfect: in my dreams.
Do you think teenage relationships can, or should, last?
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at February 23, 2007 2:14 AM
Comments
I say that they should last.
Sometimes the person that was meant to be with you forever can be right in front of you, regardless of your age.
I do think that teen relationships last, and they should more often.
This is my opinion.
Posted by: alex at March 9, 2008 11:36 PM
