Cupids Dating Blog

I know that I've come a long way from my early days of always dating for the wrong reasons. I recognize that a good partner may enhance emotional wellbeing and a sense of security but self-esteem and an ability to cope successfully with stress first must come from within.

I need to be my most reliable source of support. No man or woman is an island but sometimes you need to avoid counting on a whole city every time you feel self-pity. Learning to build self-esteem without needing my ego stroked by all and sundry has helped me rely less on finding my supposed ideal mate as my only life goal.

Over the years, often those who've told me we had nothing in common were the ones with whom I shared to most qualities and faults even if such characteristics manifested on the surface in different ways. Nothing is more annoying than seeing your least attractive behavior mirrored elsewhere.

Hypocritically rejecting someone else's actions without improving your own will lead to a lifetime of disappointments. Like it or not, opposites may share brief passion but those that stay longest are more alike than different.

I should stop preaching and start believing. I'm guilty too of searching for heroes or scapegoats. When I was dumped last time, I claimed self-righteously to my ex who was a smoker that finally free from negative influence I would stop the habit I love to hate. I'm still smoking over a month later. Breakups are stressful after all.

Sour grapes do make the most toxic wine and revenge may taste sweeter but living well should be a personal goal not a vengeful act. I think it's time to stop with the whole game of smoke and mirrors, take a real look at myself and stop waiting for change to ask me out.