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August 3, 2005
Contacting The Ex
What is it with ex’s who want to stay in contact? I mean, I understand that if you’ve built a connection, you might want to hold on to part of it. However, it seems only logical that there’s a cool down period. I have a friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend. They met up in a bar a couple of weeks after and she was there with her new boyfriend.
She still calls my friend and wants to talk to him about what she’s going through in her life and the things she’s doing with her new man. He is understandably a little rattled by it all. He, too, wants to stay in contact with her, but the pain is just to intense at this point. There needs to be a period of time where they can both regroup. Since she’s moved on, it’s easier for her to bridge the emotional gap. He still faces a huge chasm. I’m hoping one day he can make the leap. In the meantime, I hope she uses a little discretion and gives him the time he needs to regroup.
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at August 3, 2005 7:28 PM
Comments
Okay, Understandably there needs to be a cool down period. A gap in which both partners cool off, regroup, learn. But when is it acceptable to contact your ex again, when is too soon?
Posted by: Rene at January 11, 2006 4:25 PM
I think that's up to the individual. For me, it's usually relative. Usually it seems that if I dated someone for three months, I may need three months to get over them and be okay with seeing them again without crumbling back into those old feelings. Three years takes me three years, give or take. But hey, that's just me ;)
Posted by: Tyric at January 16, 2006 11:05 AM
I had an ex contact me after 11 years, we were together for 5 on and off mostly during highschool. You know what? I still wasn't ready to deal with him. It totally shook me up. 11 years wasn't enough cooling time for me. I don't know when it ever will be enough time when it comes to him. All my other ex's (and I've dated plenty) I could deal with if need be - just not him. So in general I say never is too soon for that "one" ex.
Posted by: Sacha at June 6, 2007 3:37 AM
