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October 10, 2007
Dating Generous Wealthy Singles Vs. Penny Pinchers
One question that I never, ever ask or even hint at when I'm on a date is how much money the other person makes. I think this is one of the most superficial things you can do on a date, not to mention that it's tacky. However, the more relationships I have, the more I realize how important the financial status of your partner is. I'd hardly call myself rich and I certainly wouldn't group myself among the generous wealthy singles out there, but I can claim complete financial independence. For me, the key to wealthy dating is not how much money they make, but that it's theirs. They're the one who made it and they're surviving on their own.
Relationships aren't necessarily equal. There needs to be balance, but balance is not the same as equality. While one person provides something, the other gives what the first lacks. This is what people mean when they say two people compliment each other. Each provides what the other needs. Some people desire financial security from their significant other, for example, and in return provide another type of security, emotional perhaps. This is why women have typically spent more energy on their looks than men—beauty in exchange for monetary benefits. (Although times are changing, considering the number of beautiful men and powerful women there are out there.)
The important issue is not how much wealthy singles have, but how generous they are. They can be a millionaire but if they refuse to spend a cent on you, what good is it? Worse is when they've got plenty of their own cash and yet expect you to pay for everything. Personally, I'm tired of being the one who always dishes out. In my case, this is mostly due to my age group and the fact that a lot of my dates are students with understandably limited budgets. When I'm the one who's working, I don't mind picking up the bill. What I'm growing less intolerant of are those folks who are just selfish and cheap. They've got cash and they have no problem spending it on themselves.
Don't assume that just because you're thinking about the bottom line that you're cheap or selfish or whatever. The easy solution is to stick to your own economic class when looking for a partner. A couple that can share expenses without question can avoid a lot of awkwardness. Myself, I prefer to pick up the bill than finagle over who's going to pay. That just kills the moment. However, limiting your potential romances to your tax bracket is guaranteed to eliminate a lot of great folks who aren't wealthy singles. I don't see the point in making dating life harder than it already is. Instead, when you're trying to meet wealthy women or men, consider generosity rather than wealth and you'll be sure to find someone who will share whatever they have.
Posted by Rick at October 10, 2007 2:00 AM
