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Here are some tips to online dating....

If you're a guy, then pay particular attention to details in the profiles when someone writes to you. Foreigners don't always put believable measurements in a girl's profile. One common site has plenty of what seems to be hot chicks to write to, but if you look at the weight/measurement ratio....it doesn't add up. You'll see someone's weight as 125 lbs and height at 5'7", but the measurements are 25-36-34 with C size breasts. Browse through multiple profiles and you'll see a pattern. I've never met a woman with a 25" chest with C size tits. Remember to be very suspicious, because they make their living off of your credit card! If you register a free profile and then suddenly every three or four days a new message pops into your mailbox beware! Don't rush to give them your money just to talk to the chick with the nice pic! Chances are it's a fake profile, a fake message, and a fake pic. Just to get your $20 a month! Check it all out, right down to the profile name. Look for sentences that have errors, compare weight/measurements, what's said in their profile. If it looks too good to be true, well then, you're getting smarter already!

just some advice from the helpful hinter!

yes exactly. there's lots of fake profiles up there from the "profile of the week" to the ones that are people trying to get you to log into their porno site. you can usually spot them because things don't add up - in one part they'll say they're in one profession, but somehoe got a completely different degree. or, as mentioned above, have crazy measurements.

Fake profiles are rampant, and for website owners like myself, it is a rather depressing reality. I started degreedate.com, but unlike a lot of sites out there, I make sure each profile is a real profile. While stopping fake profiles from signing up on degreedate.com, the reality is that in an indirect way, it also hurts the site in terms of sheer numbers. Fake profiles are deplorable, and a sneaky, dirty way of falsely promoting a site. Hopefully sites that do post fake profiles will see the bad they do.

Or maybe the person is real and 1. got more interested interested in someone else. 2. Decided that there was something in your profile that would make you incompatible in the long run. 3. They were not paid subscribers and could not respond. 4. They got busy with something that became a higher priority than dating.

Question:
An associate of mine suggested some people put honest profiles up just to see how many people try and contact them, but have no intentions of responding. It's just an ego boost for them.

Does this count as a 'fake' profile?

Well, I think when I first got into this blog, I was referring strictly to sites that add fake profiles to pad their members. I think those users that post ultra-pretty people for fun are a lot easier to spot. If it seems to good to be true, it probably is. ;)

Hey, got sprung by a fake profile... it was a lure to call one of those $5 a minute lines. The dating site was kind enough to reimburse me my 'stamp'for the initial contact though.

I want to start by confirming something . and that is that there are ALOT of people who scream "fake profile" for the wrong reasons.. usually because they are not succeeding in the internet dating world (which is a reality for most unofrtunatly).
Saying this.. i can back up with proof that many companied DO in fact post fake profiles or at least allow it with a commonly used method called "agency" profiles (which allow for example russian agencies to post multiple profiles on a site for a fee to help their customers get their much wanted visas)
both of these methods ("fake" or "agency") profiles are as bad as each other, and basically promote dishonest and play with real people's lives just to make a quick buck.

out of the many i have spotted there are 3 women who are plaguing the internet.. i am not completely sure if these are fake profiles or agency profile, but am possitive they are one or the other.
the 3 women i speak of have multiple profiles on different sites and along with multiple profiles on the same site.. same pictures, different date of birth details, locations and other details that don't match.
When i noticed the 1st person haveing multiple profiles on the site, i reported all their profiles (11 of them on the same site) to them.
not only did i not get a reply, the profiles stayed active for months on end.
i then found another site, same picture and comletely different details.. i reported this member to the 2nd site, and gave links to the 1st site to back up my claim.
this site sent me an email of thankyou, and told me that they have disabled the account (making it that when that user logs on again they get a screen not allowing them to do anything but contact the website administrators) and told me that this profile will still be visible to myself and other users.
later on i found a 3rd site i was signed up to had the same person again different details.. again i reported it.. nothing has been done.

This has all been over a period of 7 months.. in this time 1 site is showing most of the reported fake profiles of these 3 women, however once one is deleted andother 3 pop up in its place.

seeing 3 sites showing the same profile pictures and not deleting them totally, shows me that they are either the ones that posted the pictures in the 1st place, or are aware they are agency profiles (money makers for them).

the biggest website that i have seen this happening over and over again is bigchuch.com - part of the friendfinder network.
the others include yahoo and lavalife (lavalife are the company that sent me an email.. and apart from this 1 profile, i have no doubt is one of the most honest dating sites on the internet)
btw.. bigchurch.com also sends out match emails.. and guess who makes it to "profile of the month" yep.. all 3 of these women haha 5 months running (last 2 months have been legit people)
they are out there.. and we do need to be careful.

another site which i am actually thinking about taking legal action on is adultfriendfinder.com (once again part of the friendfinder network)

this site lies before you even become a member.
Before thinking about joining a site like this, you want to do a search to see what local members there are.. this site when i searched showed over 100 profiles of local members.
once you sign up, you see this go down to 6 members.

then there is "people who have viewed your profile" this one is amazing.. you get a page of pictures and profile names of people who have viewed your profile.. i have been seen by many amercian women and amazingly get viewed at least 5 times a day (and thats without a picture in my profile YEAH SURE)

The other interesting thing i saw with this website.. was that a day after joining i get a message from an apparent local, who wants to see my picture. (this is new to me, and i have been in the scene a long time.. most people just ignore profiles without pictures)
a week later i get a smile from another local.. seeing as i had 2 people somewhat interested in saying hello, i thought about joining up paid membership.. i never got a return message from the 1st person, although i offered to send my photo to her.. the 2nd person who winked, i sent her a message saying hello.. 1 month later i write another, bascially saying that if she was not interested (even though she smiled) at least let me know.. i recieved a small message back saying she was, and wanting to know a little about me.. i wrote back.. 2 months later, i sent another one wondering why i did not get a reply.. another small message arrived saying "sorry i have not been online for quiet a while".. i thought.. she must not be interested, because i know she is online every day..
it was after this time, i realised something very strange.. now i work shift work, so am on the internet at any given time day or night.. and i logged in many times (at 9am, 1pm, 2am, 4am, and 8am) and saw 3 of the 6 local profiles online at any given time.
i got suspisious, so stocked up on coffee and spend 36 hours straight, monitoring the website and "who's online".. to my amazement, there were 4 profiles (local)running on a 4 hour login rotation.. and would show them logged in for 2 hours at a time.
i tested this again a month later.. and the exact same time, same profile etc was showing online.
BUSTED!
now comes the time my membership is due to expire.. it was going to expire at 2am.. guess who recieved a message from the 1st person (the one requesting the photo) 1 minute before that time (knowing that there is no way i could reply before the 2am deadline ( i tried and found it asked for membership) 2 days after this.. the 2nd girl (who is never online to reply) sends me a message that i have to be a member to reply to (pretty neat seeing as that she is showing as a non payed member and can do what i can't) and a day later a 3rd person smiles at me.
i deleted my profile and my cookies for the site.. to be faced with the 200 local profiles in the search again.

watch out for friendfinder.

know that there are fake profiles set up by some dating sites, along with agency profiles.. but also know that there are real people out there who are not interested or lose interest in you.. they are sometimes assumed as fake profiles.. but in reality they are real, just sad people behind them.

I love dressing up in a ladies silky underclothes
in the company of the most gorgeous lady

Well very interesting blog to add to. I noticed another thing about fake profiles that should be pointed out. You look at the picture of a beautiful sexy woman...WOW amazing....She is from Nigeria? She is white and looks like a super model and is from Nigeria? Another twist on the Nigeria email "419" scam. Report them to the site if it will do any good. Most littered with these I have seen is http://www.datemefree.com.

Another group of sites that really suck are the Confidential Connections Group: http://www.confidentialconnections.com

The people that edit this site are quite frankly mildly retarded and they do not speak good english at all. My profile CLEARLY STATES at the top and bottom

"READ MY PROFILE OR DO NOT EMAIL ME! ....If you are sending me an email please mention to me that you noticed I am also a professional drummer and that I like women that wear mini skirts and high heels. This way I know you actually viewed and read my profile instead of sending me the exact same letter you sent to everyone else. If this is not mentioned in your letter I will not respond to you. "

Here is an example of the letters I get back from the aforementioned website from 18 to 24 year old women that think I am all that LOL!

"Hello Colin
How are you?
My name is Edicleia, but you can call me Cleia!! I’m 20 years old, I’m an affectionate and dedicated girl, who needs an honest man with the same ideas that I...
I live with my mother and two younger brothers, but I was born in Mato Grosso Do Sul (another state far away from here)
During the week I stay at home, because, as i was not born in Curitiba, I dont have so many frindships here, I’m almost alone... I’m living here for 7 years now.
I smoke sometimes, but I dont drink and I dont have kids.
I need somebody to share my happy and sad moments... I already suffer for love...
When I’m in a serious relationship I’m completely loyal and faithful!!!
Maybe you is the right one for me....
Kisses,Cleia. "

I mean most of them have lots of amazing photos to look at but really all the Agency wants is your money. Form letters where they type in your first name? I am sure they are. Photos of women that would turn most men into tripods LOL. Anyways watch yourselves on any of these dating sites....check with me I am on many.

Colin Graham

Ever send a sign of interest to someone online only to wonder why they don’t reply even after they returned your sign of interest and you spent the money trying to contact them? I do. My paranoia, healthy or not, has led me to strict rules about the way I contact people online.

Hi there colin, u r not alone in spotting fake profiles on these unscrupulous dating sites, my foreignbride.com and its sister sites such as afrointroductions.com have to be amongst the most crooked, those blonde-haired babes from nigeria r russian models who HAPPEN to be on modeling assignments in nigeria, they just HAPPEN to run out of money, they ask u to send them airfair back to russia+money to come and see you on the way (approx £800, $1500) they'll spend some time with you and promise to put a smile on your face. obviously if u send them money you'll never hear from them again. if the model is black, its the same story but she claims she's an american model, also on afrointroductions, i could come on at 8am and there will be 10-15 women in a row, would u believe if i came on 5-6hrs later the same 10-15 women r in the same place, if i try to contact any of them there is no answer, me and a friend sat next to each other a few weeks ago, (9:30pm) using2different pc's; we spoke to 2different women using picture of beautiful women in the profiles, they were giving us identical answers which told us it was probably the same person using 2profiles at the same time, i've complained to the website many times about fake profiles, they reply by telin me the profile has been removed, but would u believe the picture in many cases is back the following day with a different name and sometimes even country, i've lost count of the amount of times this has happened, meaning the website MUST be involved. Many of these "models" from nigeria r wearing expensive clothes and hairdos even the dummest man can see they cant possibly b from nigeria. i corresponded with many women from russianeuro.com, maybe a dozen, would u believe each one sent me an identical reply and i literarly mean word for word, there r many other scams used on this group of sites, too many to list here. your example from friendfinder.com wrung a bell with me, i took out a months subscription with them, never got a single reply. within a few days of the subscription ending i got countless numbers of messages and winks from members on the site, and as u mite guess all the girls were gorgeous, the site said i'd have to renew my subscription to contact these women, but i began to smell a rat. now i'm wise and it only cost me approx £50 about $80. wat i'd like to know is why r these people allowed to operate, y r crooks like this not out of business?

It just goes to show you why people have already started losing interest in online dating. Too many people abusing the system, and so many online dating services are dishonest to begin with, it's a wonder online dating isn't already dead.

I've been on many dating dating sites for years now. One thing I learned from all these sites is that they most definitely are creating their own fake profiles and for obvious reasons. To give the impression that they have a wealth of available single people on their site. Not only are they doing this but they are also sharing these profiles with each other. On more than one occassion I actually saw the same profile of someone on a different dating site. Now it isnt unusual to be a member to more than one dating site but both sites were showing that this person was 'online' at the same time! How could this be possible. lol. Not all profile are fake but my suspisions are that it could be as much as a third to half of all profiles may be fake. Its an unfortunate reality to online dating. The most important thing is to remember this when you join a dating site. If they dont respond back it may not be because they arent interested but because they dont exist. This can be a real ego shatterer when no one responds to you. I wish it would be illegal to do this. These sites should also be monitored to prevent this deception. Let the buyer beware.

Hey Will - just a note. It's easy to appear on two dating sites at the same time. I often have three windows open and am on different sites in all of them. Not to take away from your message--I'm just saying that it's very possible to have that happen. Now, if that person happens to be online and living in different cities, that's something altogether different! ;)

As for the percentage of fake profiles, I say it really depends on the dating site. The big sites don't have to pad. They have the real deal. You can check CupidsReviews.com and we show the popularity of every site. Start with the big ones!