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August 17, 2009
Getting Rich While Maintaining A Serious Relationship
It pretty much goes without saying that getting rich is not an easy thing to do. It may not be so obvious that getting rich while keeping a good relationship on the right track is doubly hard. I met a woman after chatting on one of many rich dating sites - all the effort I had been putting in at work was finally paying off and with a raise and benefits, I found my savings beginning to swell, so I figured these were the right online dating destinations to explore. It was only later that I found out that the lady I met was not actually among the ranks of the other affluent women I chatted with, but after getting to know her, this small indiscretion didn't matter so much. We clicked perfectly and that's what was - and still is - important.
The problem is that it's hard to keep saving up money when the person you're dating is not as wealthy as you are. Given that she knew I was pretty well off, she wouldn't settle for any cheap dates. I didn't want to take her anywhere cheap anyways, so it wasn't a big deal (though I must admit I felt a little bit as though I was being used for my money, but that could just be me being paranoid). Between the gifts and the expensive dinners, I've started coming across a whole bunch of obstacles and getting rich is becoming even more difficult.
However, as I mentioned, we really did click and things are getting better and better. We progressed from just casual dating to a much more serious and healthy relationship and we started spending most nights of the week and every weekend together. The other major hurdle I've discovered is that while I normally worked on the weekends and after work to get a little extra money in my account, my time was now taken up because I was spending so much of it with this new love of mine. Spending time with her is great, but spending all my money and not making any to refill the coffers isn't.
I had to really make a change in the way that we spent our time together - not to mention reorganize my schedule so that I could fit in some time to do that extra work that helped me become fairly well to do in the first place. While she enjoyed the perks of dating a guy who isn't living paycheck to paycheck, she didn't so much enjoy it when I changed my schedule to get back on track at work.
It looks like this relationship is doomed. Breaking it off would really be a heartbreak, but I think she has to understand I need to balance my priorities in life and being a guy who is finally moving up the ladder, I can't sacrifice my professional goals for a relationship that may or may not work out in the long run.
Is it possible to find a nice balance?
Posted by lucas at August 17, 2009 2:38 AM
