Cupids Dating Blog

I suppose I should say, first, that by "funny" I don't mean that it made me laugh, but rather that it made me feel funny. My friend met his new gal a couple of months ago and I just met her for the first time about a week ago. Now, I'm not really the kind of guy to have fantasies about military dream girls, but when I saw these two together it really got me thinking.

I don't know what you imagine when you picture your dream mate, but I think one of the first qualities I look for is an adventurous spirit. My friend and his new girlfriend are just about as adventurous as they come. They signed up for a life where they'll be sent all over the world and be faced with challenges I can't even imagine. They both live for the challenge, the opportunity to test themselves and to try to live significant lives.

I'm a bit jealous of them. I like to imagine that faced with a great challenge or adversity, I'll give a good account of myself. I also always imagined that my life would involve a lot of adventures. The thing is, my life is really pretty routine. I mentioned this to them and they laughed, and then tried to talk me into signing up. It seems like an obvious choice.

It's not that simple, though. My friend and his new military girlfriend are really good, honorable people and I respect what they do. That said, the army just isn't a place where I'd do well. I'm not really good at taking orders and I question pretty much everything. With my attitude, I'd spend an absurd amount of time cleaning toilets, and I'm really not sure that would be a step up for me. Joking aside, the bottom line is that an army life just isn't in line with how I want to live.

So when I say that I'm jealous of my friend, what I mean is that I wish I could find my own way of challenging myself with great adventures, but given my personality and talents it's hard to just sign up and go for it like my friends have done.

The reason I find it hard to take off and go adventure seeking is that I find it hard to imagine being able to do that without losing a lot of the friends and community I've accumulated over the years. Which brings me to something else I really admire about my friends - even though they're in a fairly new relationship, they're already very committed to each other and don't seem at all fazed by the fact that they'll be spending a lot of time apart. They seem to have found a way to balance running off on grand adventures with having something, and someone, to come home to. I know it's a little too soon to know if they'll pull it off, but I really think they will and that makes me hopeful about the possibilities that are out there for me. Maybe it'll make it a bit easier to take that leap.