Cupids Dating Blog

Having never actually read one of the books myself, but having indeed at least perused some story descriptions online, I tend to recognize somewhat of a pattern that emerges from all of them. There's usually pent up passion in a woman who is in love with the wrong kind of man. A brooding, misunderstood stranger who just needs the right woman to touch his heart.

Usually, there's also usually another male suitor who is either villainous, or sometimes the perfect gentleman, but just not hot enough to float the female protagonist's boat. My mom always disapproved of the sort of girl who goes for the bad boy. She always told me that any woman who thought she could change a guy was headed for trouble down the road.

Then again, since I was always one of those fellows described as too nice, she was always trying to make me feel that even not being a stud, didn't make me a dud. She'd say those chicks who date pricks suffered from low self-esteem. She theorized that they all thought that any dude who treated them right must have something wrong with him, since they didn't believe themselves good enough, or worthy of kind treatment.

I think my dear old mother was on to something right, despite perhaps, mistakenly believing that women were more that way then men are. I know more than a few men who seem determined to go with dames that would probably think that they were too lame to consider themselves in the same league. Even, myself, I've always had a tendency to end up in unequal pairings.

I guess as hard as we men try to say it is to figure out what women want, it's equally true that even us guys, always want either what we can't have, or ideally wouldn't want. Human nature is so complicated. Wouldn't be great, if we only ever wanted what was healthy and good for us.

I'd meet someone over a bottle of water, instead of beer. We'd go for a salad instead of a pizza and walk back to my place instead drive. Maybe, my bad dating experiences are as much the result of my own vices, as bad matches.