Cupids Dating Blog

I think it's strange that we find such significance in our romantic relationships and yet are so unwilling to admit that we need them. Common wisdom will tell you that you have to be happy alone before searching for healthy relationships can bring about anything positive. I admit there is plenty of truth to the idea. It's very important to have a strong sense of self, to know what you want and not expect another person to solve all of your problems. There are also plenty of people who chose not to have long-term relationships, who don't marry and yet have happy, healthy, meaningful lives.

However, even people that choose not to devote themselves to romantic relationships still, in most cases, have a strong relationship with some kind of community. For most of us, the community we're involved with ends up being our immediate family, our close friends and our significant others. It's not unreasonable to want one of those people to think of you first, before anyone else.

It's also pretty common for people who are deeply in love to express sentiments like, "I don't know where I would be without you" or to consider the relationship to be the most significant thing in their lives. I think most of us are seeking that kind of relationship, so I think it's strange that we find something distasteful about the search, or consider the overwhelming desire to find a relationship like that a sign of weakness. It's a bit unreasonable.

I do think that sitting around lamenting the absence of a relationship or keeping your life on hold waiting for one to magically occur is very unhealthy. The only point I'm trying to make is that given how important relationships can be, we should respect the importance of seeking them out. You can't just sit around waiting for a hot cutie to show up and pursue you. The really beautiful thing about online dating is that it really gives you the opportunity to take control of the situation, to look actively and, hopefully, find someone looking for the same thing you are.