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January 2, 2008
How To Find A Date
Sometimes it just isn't easy to find a date, but it isn't for lack of options. You can meet people almost anywhere and, even if your shy, dating personals are a great way to stick your neck out and get into the dating scene. That said, knowing where to find a date and knowing how to find a date are not at all the same kettle of fish.
There a lot of places to getter better advice on how to pick up a girl than I can give you. I do OK for myself, but I've never been great at chatting up strangers. I think that's one of the reasons I've always been more comfortable with online dating. It's easier to take that first step when you know the people you are interacting with are interested in dating and, even better, you have some idea what they're looking for even before you start talking.
Dating profiles are really a good tool for meeting the right people. 'How Important is a Profile?' you ask? I would say that a profile is very important, whether you reading them or posting them. In the online world, apart from photos, what is written in a profile is what will make peoples' first impressions.
It is a bit of an awkward process at first. You feel like you're trying to sell yourself and anyone with an ounce of humility is bound to feel strange. That's something to think about when you're reading them though. There are millions of jokes about how to read into what people write in dating profiles, but I think you have to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they are at least trying to be honest. Otherwise, you're closing a lot of doors due more to your own paranoia than anything else.
I think you can learn a lot about how people think from what they write though. A person's personal details will be either overly negative or overly positive depending on whether they lack confidence, are sincerely humble or are overly arrogant. I suppose you gauge people's personalities if you think about this, but that's really not what I had in mind.
I think that, maybe, the best way to get an idea of who your dealing with is to pay close attention to what people are looking for in others. It's not so important, necessarily, that you meet all the criteria. What is important about this part of a profile is that you'll begin to see what it is they value in other people and this will give you some idea of what they really care about and how they try to live. That, I think, is the first step when you're trying to find a date: look for someone who shares your values.
Posted by Leon at January 2, 2008 2:00 PM
