Cupids Dating Blog

I expected to see that same familiar face at least once again over the weekend, but didn't. I figured the next victim, I mean boyfriend, had been found in this serial monogamist's long list. It's one of those cases where it's someone who can't be alone for more than five minutes. That's why I'd call our relationship more than just completely casual, even if it was hardly so meaningful.

It got me thinking in my typically sentimental manner about other past failed relationships. How seldom have I heard the words 'I love you' from someone who actually meant it. Ironically, the times I have heard where it was more likely to be true, it sounded a lot more as if a word had been added to the phrase, so it was transformed to "I want to love you."

Wanting to do something versus actually doing it is comparable to the relevance of phrases using could've, should've or would've. I've actually had at least one person say that try as one might that I just wasn't easy enough to love. Another ex, with whom I rarely speak, especially since I'm still owed some money back from a loan I should have never lent, says just about the time love was finally arriving between us, I left.

Funny since I had confessed already my feelings, but was told that the word love was too strong in the English language, so it was preferred that if I had to say it, I would only do so in the other's native language of Croatian instead. In my head, that made the liar detector go off, since pardon my French, but that sounded like BS.

Nevertheless, some folks claim that you have to listen well for love. In my experience, it's just the opposite. Using the future tense when you speak, or making plans for next week might guarantee a second date, but when we're talking love, it isn't rocket science. I've said and meant it at least once, so I know maybe one day I won't need a translator to hear back.