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June 8, 2006
IM: Do Not Disturb
I always find it funny when dating sites have instant messaging as one of their features. It seems like such an intrusion. Sure, it’s great if you’re undiscerning. The more contacts you can make the merrier, right? However, I think that for anyone who really cares about who they date would find this a pain.
Let’s face it, most of us have standards, and to be yapping with anyone who just happens to be online is a bit of a waste of time. Well, that’s the way it seems to me, anyway. But then again, I may be in the minority. There are tons of people who visit Internet chat rooms and bulletin boards. They are seeking conversation and digital companionship, so why not hang out on a dating site for it? I guess I can understand why IM is included, looking at it from that perspective. For me, though, my instant messaging will always read, Do Not Disturb!
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at June 8, 2006 12:44 PM
Comments
You're right that sometimes we're bored with IM messages and ignore them.
But I should say that on the whole such sources of communication are the most attractive ones on a dating site. Firstly, they are interactive. Secondly, you can choose whether to communicate with a community (chat) or to pick up aperson into a private chat. And if you put "Do not disturb" message in your IM, then what for have you come to the dating site? Don't you like to talk to people? To get to know them better?
Being silent and watch the process is not very effective. I'm sure we should participate in life, right?
Posted by: Julia Dorofeeva at June 9, 2006 9:58 AM
Agreed, we should participate in life, but if you're not selective about who you're chatting with, you could be wasting valuable time. It may depend on how busy you are... ?? ;)
Posted by: Cupids Reviews Doug at June 12, 2006 9:47 AM
Right, and in this case may be it's better to look at the person's profile before chatting with him or her. In such a case you'll be sure that at least you'll have something to say and to get from the person you're communicating with.
And even for people who have lots of minutes to spend chatting, it's difficult to communicate with everyone at once. So in the end there are only several addresses left in a contact list...
Posted by: Julia Dorofeeva at June 13, 2006 6:09 AM
I agree with Julia. If you sign in to a dating site, its that you want to communicate and know more people, but yeah chatting with everyone is kinda waste of time and energy.
Tell me cupid how do you manage to sit silently and still getting dates(I am assuming that)???
Posted by: Date Redraider Singles at June 19, 2006 5:36 AM
How am I getting dates? Easy - a solid profile. Marketing is an art. I just do a decent job of it. Still, after four years single, one has to wonder why it is I still haven't found Ms Right Drat! Well, back to the drawing table! ;)
Posted by: Cupid at June 19, 2006 5:37 PM
That's cool Cupid. Four years and still single!! Seriously haven't you met any gal who seems to be Ms Right for you??
Posted by: Date Redraider Singles at June 20, 2006 8:01 AM
Are IM’s really that much of an annoyance?
It is another way to just say hello. Granted there are the 20% that would screw it up for the rest of us. But it is just a way to say hello. From my perspective I would be flattered if a woman IM’d me. I am not impressed with IM or chatrooms where it seems as though it is just a come on for sex sites. I think that being able to say hello to someone online would be a good use of my time. And who know she might say she wants to talk to me, or better yet go out with me.
Hope everyone has a great evening.
Frank
Frank
Posted by: Frank at July 6, 2006 5:02 PM
