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September 29, 2008
It's Important To Have A Real, Rather Than Fake, Adult Date
The first people who really put the idea of universal human rights and dignity into words were the folks who wrote the U.S. declaration of independence. All the variants thought up during the French revolution or for the UN charter of rights are all derivatives. There is something interesting about the idea, though, in that it states that everyone is born equal, not that everyone is equal. We've got to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but that doesn't mean everyone lives up to the responsibility of being a decent human being. Some people are just jerks. We have to respect their right to be jerks, but what we do not have to respect is the fact that they are jerks. This translates to the dating scene, because when you're searching through a sex dating site, you're probably looking for a real adult date. Someone who is emotionally mature rather than someone who, having reached the age of majority, still thinks that the world is their personal playground and that they don't have to treat anyone else with any dignity or respect. If you're really going to have fun with someone, they've got to be mature enough not to turn a simple relationship into a nightmare.
You can see examples of this kind of behavior just about anywhere. For instance, I came to work this morning by bicycle. It's extremely convenient, saves money, helps me wake up in the morning and doesn't waste gas. Montreal, where I live, is a very bike-friendly city and lots of people are on the roads and lots of people are scrambling for places to lock up their bikes. This morning I rode up to the bike rack inside the building where I work to find that someone had parked their bike parallel to the rack and locked it there so that no one else had any place to lock their bike. Even if the owner of this bike turned out to be a gorgeous Asian beauty, I don't think I'd be able get over her monumental rudeness and take her on an adult date even if she begged me.
I know this may not sound like a big thing, but the kind of person who is willing to inconvenience an entire building full of people out of complete self-absorption really isn't likely to be a generous lover. People talk about the age barrier, but I'm more worried about whether on not I'm dealing with someone mature enough to be able to handle an adult relationship.
Posted by Leon at September 29, 2008 2:49 AM
