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November 6, 2007
Lessons Learned from a Christian Angel
The best break-up I have ever had was with a Catholic gal. I should say right off the bat that her strong religious attitudes and my secular stubbornness were main factors behind the failed relationship. However, her beliefs also played a key role in determining her behavior during the break up, which gave me a new perspective on Christian dating, not to mention a new respect for this particular Christian angel.
Looking back, I'd have to say her kindness and timid demeanor were what attracted me in the first place. I'm not saying all Christian angels are or should be shy, or even that it's a necessary result of the faith. In this case though, I'd say the two were connected. Marie had the conviction of a hardcore political activist but it was subdued. She didn't feel the need to shove her beliefs down the throats of everyone she interacted during any given day. In fact, her religious background was a surprise to discover when I did.
Skipping forward, when we decided to split ways (which was more her decision than mine although I realized later it was the best thing for me, too), she took time with me to allow the loss to sink in. Choices were explained—not justified, but explained. I have to admit that I was emotionally distraught and she brought a Vulcan-like stoicism and logic to the closure.
I'm far too free-thinking to be constrained by any religious structure, which I'm sure makes me out to be a heathen in some Christians angel's eyes. Don't be so quick to judge though. If Marie taught me anything, it was that being sensitive and caring transcends religious barriers, and more importantly, that they should be applied in every situation, even when things go sour. That's why her and I are still good friends.
Two more articles about Christian dating:
A Religious Fantasy
My Search for Religious Honeys
Posted by Simon at November 6, 2007 2:00 AM
