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March 14, 2007
Letting Go of a Relationship
Sometimes it can be really hard to know when it’s time to let go. People can tell you all they want—that you need to get out, dump them or move on. I have one friend in particular who sees everything as black and white. Everything for her is simple. Her sentences to me start “All you have to do is…” I would imagine if I could turn my feelings on and off the way she suggests that life would in fact be far less complicated.
I also have a very clear memory of a girl I knew in high school who got dumped by her long-time (well, long time for high school) boyfriend. She cried for one day. The next day, she looked great. I asked her what had happened and her answer was simple “It wasn’t meant to be.” She clearly believed that to be the case and I was instantly jealous of her ability to let things go, to go with the flow. I have never been able to do that with anything that bothers me and certainly relationships are no exception. I would constantly be worrying about that possible missed chance to have the perfect romance. I would think about what I needed to do or say differently to save it. I couldn’t turn it off. I would over-think.
Although I still would say I am guilty of over-thinking on a regular basis,
I have learned a lot over the years. I realize now that my friends can advise
me until they’re blue in the face about what they think is best for me
and what path I need to take to reach a happy life, but although their words
may make sense to me, until I am ready to let go they are just words. I try
to remind myself of this when I see someone I care about making a mistake in
a relationship they’re in. I know that they can ask for my advice and
I can most certainly give it but until they’re ready to let go, they aren’t
going to accept it.
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at March 14, 2007 10:39 PM
