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September 21, 2007
Meaningful Sexual Relationships?
Admittedly, many sex dating sites have somewhat shady reputations. Not as far as I'm concerned from a safety standpoint, but rather many folks claim that too many of the profiles are too good to be true. I suppose in some cases the people might have a point, but my attitude is that in all venues you'll find individuals who pose as something, or someone, they're not. At any rate, our best scoring adult personals site is called Adult Friend Finder.
I know what you're thinking. At least you know what the other person looks like. However, I've known a few dudes that look good from far away, but are far from good looking and just as many women who might look okay in the dim lighting of a singles bar, but out in broad daylight, it soon becomes apparent that they're sporting more than a thin layer of foundation and concealer. Nevertheless, I agree that online, or in person, what most people disguise more easily is their personality.
When you're browsing through sexy personals with pictures of scantily clad ladies, or shirtless athletic males, whichever gender suits your fancy, it can distract you from the other details of that person's profile. I mean if there's some sort of physical spark just from their picture alone, you may feel that the rest isn't important to read, if you're seeking a so-called intimate encounter.
However, as much as that last term for what might be more appropriately named a sex date, or in some cases, a one-night stand, sounds to annoyingly clinical to me, it does make some sense. Physical intimacy always entails a certain amount of emotional vulnerability, struggle for identity and requires trust in another individual. In other words, even if it lasts only a few hours, it is in a manner of speaking almost as if you're living an entire relationship at warp speed.
People sometimes claim sexual adventures are completely devoid of attachment and entirely anonymous, but in reality, merely being naked in front of someone is not a private act performed for my acquaintances or work colleagues. I'm shy about even friends or family members seeing me without my shirt on. I'm a very modest person. For me who is hardly an exhibitionist, more of a prude in fact, nudity is already sharing something "intimate" with someone.
Maybe it's just me, but I don't see the clearest distinction. Sure, I have dreamed of finding a deeper level of intimacy with a partner. Up until now, I'd say even my most meaningful match-up so far, felt more like a sexual romance, or probably what would be better described as having romantic sex for two years. Maybe that's why I don't take the casual adult dating too casually. What about you?
Posted by Will at September 21, 2007 2:52 AM
