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July 5, 2006
Moving In With The Girlfriend
I don’t know that there’s a bigger step than you can take in a relationship than moving in with a girlfriend. Well, scratch that. Pregnancy is the biggest. And now that I think of it, buying a house with a girlfriend comes a close second. That’s what a buddy of mine is doing.
He’s been dating a girl for six months and they just bought a house together. The deal is that he bought a home with his sister and they’ve grown apart—so far apart that he needs to move out. Somehow he and this new girl convinced each other that buying a home is a good investment. I’ve seen them together and although they look happy, there’s nothing to suggest that this relationship is anything more than any other relationship he’s had. I’m all for buying a home with the one you love but it just seems like too big a step to take because you need to get out of your house. Is he crazy or am I?
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at July 5, 2006 10:19 AM
Comments
Big step indeed! I think you should first live together for a while before buying a house, and a while I means a few years would be good! I've lived with someone for two years and only now (ok I am slow) discovered that I probably do not want to buy a house with this person, ever. Sucks, but we have to face the truth; sometimes you do not realize the other person may not be right for you during your honey-moon-everything-is-fine period. Six months is definitely still in there!
Listen; on the other hand, there are tons of passionate people who know what they want, and can analyse if this person will be able to give it to them. I'd say it is up to them, as long as they properly protect themselves in case of a (financial) breakup. Having paper-ties does make a possible split a whole lot more complex!
Posted by: Christine at July 5, 2006 10:55 AM
Getting any property together means that you're connected with material things and looks like marriage in this case.
Agree, that it's complecated when you're just dating. Your relationships can go too fast and I'm not sure that it'll make you any good.
The most suitable variant in such a situation is to rent a house or an apartment together and save some money for buying a house. This gives a necessary freedom of choice in case you decide to break up a relationship. If not, then you'll have your budget to choose a suitable house for your family.
Posted by: Julia Dorofeeva at July 6, 2006 7:20 AM
