Cupids Dating Blog

A few emails on a dating site turned into a couple of phone calls. There were some questions as to the validity of her age as she claimed that she was using a friends profile. As it turns out, she was pathological. She seemed together -- both on the phone, on IM and when we met in person. She told me prior to meeting that she was just fooling around on the site, that she had no kids, was divorced, quit smoking six months ago and was self-employed. However, during out time chatting she had sent me a photo of herself at what looked like her work. I noticed a purse behind her with a pack of smokes in them. When she showed up with the purse, I asked he when the photos were taken. A few days ago was her response. Ah ha! Lie number one! No problems. I can deal with someone being embarrassed about smoking. That can be handled. She apologizes and says she smokes a pack every month or so and mentions that she’s actually out of them at the moment. At the end of the date, we go out to her car – a car that she says she’s had for a week. There we find another empty pack of cigarettes. Lie number two! She now smokes at least a pack a week. Scary? Yes, but still not enough to run for the hills. Finally, she text messages me over the weekend about meeting up. She claims she can’t because her phone doesn’t get service – yet somehow she’s receiving text messages and I know that she lives in a major urban center. I try to call her and a young girl picks up the phone. Lie number three! At this point I’m sure she’s pathological and it’s time to call it quits. In four years of online dating I have never experienced anything like this. I’ve heard stories from women, of course, as men are just right nuts it seems. This, however, was my first run-in with the female version of a man gone mad. Gentlemen, these ladies do exist. They can, as in this case, look like completely sane and well-adjusted individuals. Keep on your guard. It’s better to put an end to it quick as opposed to spending a chunk of your time coming to the harsh realization yourself. Online dating is fun and a good way to meet people but keeping on your toes is forever the best advice when any new romance comes to call.