Cupids Dating Blog

It's a bit of a kicker. I really would've liked to get to know that girl. She was definitely one of the best black babes I've ever met. Cool, stylish, brilliant funny... the whole thing. I mean, maybe I'm wrong. Maybe my impression was wrong. It's hard to get a real sense of someone from one meeting, but at the same time you've really got to go with your intuition. In the long run, I probably won't look back on this with the sense that she was the "one that got away." It was all too brief, but it really does feel like I've lost something.

The Internet might make dating for shy guys a lot easier, but, like I said, meeting people is only half the problem. The problem isn't learning to have the nerve to talk to someone, it's learning to be able to communicate subtly. If you come on too strong or too quickly you look desperate, but on the other hand if you try to be too casual things slip through your fingers or you end up being "just friends." That's always a weird thing, I think. Ideally, you should be friends with the people you get involved with romantically. So many people don't see it that way, though. It's like there's a switch somewhere between lover and friend and once there's been a classification made there's no going back, no revisiting and no crossover.

I'm exaggerating, of course, but I think I'm right in that there's some critical time frame in which the nature of a relationship gets decided, and I find the pressure a little absurd. I mean, we're supposed to be rational beings. Why can't we take things slowly and see how they go and let things develop without the need to categorize each other?