Cupids Dating Blog

For a lot of people though, even people in long term relationships, public displays of affection always bother them. I have one friend that insists that what when someone is kissing you, it has to be in private or it is simply not enjoyable. She argues that when it's in public it becomes a matter of possessiveness. The desire is to make sure everyone knows you're taken and who you're with, rather than a genuine display of affection.

Now, on the other hand, I have another friend who can't conceive of a love that lasts without public displays of affection. She once broke up with a guy because he refused to kiss her in public. For her, it wasn't so much a matter of possessiveness as it was an indication of sincerity. She felt that his refusal must mean he was embarrassed to be seen with her. Truthfully, I still think she was overreacting a bit, but on the other hand I never quite trusted the guy, so maybe she was right.

Personally, I think there has to be a happy medium. I think, for the most part, being totally averse to kissing people anywhere other than behind a closed door is a little prudish. On the other hand, even though this kind of thing really doesn't bother me and, for the most part, I'm not so bitter as to begrudge others their happiness, there is such a thing as going to far. It is one thing to be sitting on a bus with two people who are being affectionate, it is totally another thing to be stuck sitting near a couple who should really should have found themselves a hotel room. I think that even when two people only have eyes for each other, there still needs to be some kind of awareness and consideration for the outside world, otherwise something is wrong.