Cupids Dating Blog

I had a visit from a former colleague and somehow our conversation turned to his herpes infection. He remembered how angry and scared he was when he found out about it. Angry because he felt it was unfair and he didn't deserve it and scared of the prospect of being shunned by the people he knows and spend the rest of his life being lonely. In time, he finally came to terms with his illness and found himself a sweet Jewish girl, who he eventually marries. Just like any normal couples they've had their share of relationship problems and the fact that they are both in the same situation just compounded their troubles. He thought since both of them have gone through the same ordeal, things would be easier.

Well, nobody said relationships are easy and even people who have been together for a long time have their fair share of misunderstandings. It's really not about how big a problem is, but it's a matter of how much the people involved are willing to find a means of meeting half-way and working things out for the better. Most of the time it all boils down to how effectively they can communicate their thoughts to each other, not only letting the other party know what's on their minds, but taking the time to listen as well. The issue here really isn't their health status. He's just using that as a convenient excuse for their present woes.

Before we parted ways, I told him that there will always be ups and downs in a relationship. What's important is never losing sight of what brought you together in the first place and building on that to pull you through any relation problems that you have.