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January 17, 2007
Relationship Rescue: Can You Save The Day?
It’s hard to really tell when a relationship is in trouble, especially from the outside. Some couples seem to have it together and then the next thing you know they’re done. Others wear their baggage on the outside and you know things aren’t going to go the distance. As a friend, it’s good to be able to read the signs. That way you can try to help, whether it be to provide a shoulder for someone to cry on or to perform relationship rescue operations as the need arises.
It’s terrible when you’re friends with both parties. I had that happen recently. Two longtime friends of mine had been seeing each other. We went to high school together and we all hung out. Nothing happened during school, but the years have a funny way of changing people. Two years ago, my two good friends decided to hook up. They fell madly in love and became inseparable. It seemed like the perfect match. They knew each other inside and out. Shared interests were there and values, too. It seemed like the start of a perfect relationship. Then time came along and changed everything. Seeing as I work in the romance business, here at Cupids Reviews, it seems I’m a popular choice to turn to when things go bad.
How should someone provide counsel to two parties at the same time? I could have told them to leave me out of it, but that would have been cold. But trying to help them both gives off the wrong impression as well. I tried to patch things up—to perform a relationship rescue that could put my two friends back on a course that we all enjoyed seeing them on. Unfortunately, my efforts were in vain. They have since split and rarely speak to one another. When we go out, they’re polite, even friendly. Yet for those who knew them before and during their time together, it’s not the same. The magic has been lost. My rescue efforts failed to save their relationship and I’m left wondering what the long-term repercussions will be our little group.
The moral of this story: never, ever let your good friends date!
Posted by cup1d666 at January 17, 2007 3:48 PM
