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November 20, 2006
Romance and Your Body
What sign are you? I’m a Scorpio. While I’m feeling so forthcoming, I should also probably tell you that I don’t believe in “signs.” Well, I should say that I believe in some signs. The ones that tell me which way to the bathroom, for example, are very high on the list of signs that I like to trust. Another sign that I like is the one that points me to the nearest ski lift. What with winter around the bend, this will be one sign that I’ll be looking to see much more of. My favorite signs, though, are the ones you see when you’re sitting across the table from someone while on a date. These are the subtle signs of body language that can turn a good date into a grand one, or a terrible one into a date that’s merely bad.
Do you use body language to convey your feelings and thoughts? If you don’t, what the heck is wrong with you?! ? Seriously, though, I think that body language is a lost art. Few people know how to read it and even fewer know how to use it. It’s so important to dating that it should be something we talk about frequently—but it’s not.
When dating, body language can be used to tell people when to back off or when to come on. It can be used to flirt, to say a simple hello or a serious ‘how are ya, sailor’? Heck, people who are skilled at reading it can possibly tell if you’re lying! Now tell me that’s not a skill that you shouldn’t be using!
For example, I’m on a plane and the woman I’m sitting next to has turned her shoulder to me and is looking away, refusing to engage me. This isn’t a difficult one to figure out. Now there’s a woman standing next to her. She has her arms folded and is bouncing up and down with a sour look on her face, but she’s looking at me directly. I can tell she’s serious about what she’s trying to communicate, yet she doesn’t even have to voice it. My guess is that she thinks there’s a bit too much turbulence and she’d like me to shut my laptop down for the safety of other passengers. You see, if I couldn’t read the signs, she’d probably be forced to grab my lap top from m mee and . . .
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at November 20, 2006 1:47 PM
Comments
I agree on some points but I also think that if people learn to use body language there will be almost impossible to know the person's inner motives. Nowadays, body language is the only unconscious thing that gives us the understanding of his personality and fears. No source like email, chat, presents cannot tell more then this simple language that is in every person and pure individual. The most interesting thing is that it's underatood without translation by everyone more or less clearly!
Posted by: Julia Dorofeeva at November 21, 2006 6:17 AM
