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October 31, 2008
Romance Tips For People Who Give Them
I've always seen matchmaking as an art form. Some artists play the guitar, others work with paint. Similar to a visual artist, a good matchmaker uses his/her keen eyes and ears to recognize character and physical traits in people that will fit well with others, and then offers romance tips to combine them on a canvas, just as one would paint a picture or assemble a puzzle. As with musicians, timing for the matchmaker is also incredibly important. Both people have to be at the right point in their lives for an encounter to take off.
At this point, I could probably write a book on relationships for dummies, so it's no surprise people come to me for romance tips, advice or simply to see if I could set them up with someone. While that makes me successful and popular in my art, it hardly makes me happy in my own love life. Don't get me wrong - I am quite happy, but it's not because I'm good at giving advice. Rather, it's due to the fact that I've learned to take it. It wasn't always like this. In fact it was only when I truly started looking at how I've helped others that I realized how I could improve my own search for love.
The problem is that as an artist of interpersonal relationships, it's sometimes hard to look at a situation in the same way when you are one of the players or - to continue with the metaphor - one of the shapes you're trying to match with another on your canvas. So my advice for people who give romance tips is this: Try and look at your own love life as though it was just one of the pieces of the puzzle you're completing and not the whole thing. If you can't, don't beat yourself up over it because it's the easiest thing to do. You can always seek advice from someone like yourself. Being a guru to others doesn't make you your own best matchmaker, and everyone needs love, even those who know everything about it.
Posted by Dylan at October 31, 2008 2:44 AM
