Cupids Dating Blog

After my last breakup, I came again to a startling conclusion for myself whose parents were married from teen years until death did them part. Many folks think long-term relationships are ideal while foreseeing the end from day one. They call it realism and say I'm naively romantic. Nevertheless, seeing the end of romance as inevitable as one's own death seems cynical not realistic to me.

Believing nothing lasts forever because no one is just right doesn't hold fickle folks back from expecting never to be single. They've avoided being alone while never settling, as long histories of multiple committed relationships seem only to serve to make better catches.

However, harder to catch too, as the more we date, the less we know what we want, the more we know what we don't want. With experience sometimes our criteria of unacceptable things far outweigh our positive expectations as we ponder what went wrong and what we didn't like about our last partner more often than allowing ourselves to mourn the things we enjoyed.

That's why I admit that I need a break from the dating scene sometimes. I like being single not for the wild bachelor life but for the chance to decide what needs to evolve in me rather than what will change when I pick someone knew to date. Besides, heads mend faster than hearts.

I believe love is a feeling not a thought. I don't love someone because it's easy or logical. I do it because feelings run deeper than the ever-changing practicalities of daily life. Unlike my thoughts changed by discussion, argument or self-reasoning, my feelings exist in a slow-changing sphere protected from outside influence.

Love seems to be about quality not quantity in my life so I can't be an optimistic without always seeing the glass half-full.