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June 26, 2007
Sex and The Latin Guy
Certain singles that I know (and love) have these wild ideas of what constitutes a proper romantic life. A few years ago, this acquaintance of mine complained that men aren't like the dude from The English Patient, that the romantic sparks that they were hoping for were simply nonexistent in the real world. Certain friends of mine also beleive that people from other, non-Anglo backgrounds were also more romantic and dreamy. One girl in particular met some Latin guy in Cuba, stayed with him for a grand total of ten days, and now wants to invite him up to Vancouver so that they can be together (she could have saved some time and energy and simply hit a Latin dating site, but that's another topic). There seems to be this sense of "the grass is greener on the other side" when it comes to the dating scene - if you're from some exotic country, that means that you MUST be more romantic than the local schmucks.
Alexei Sayle once said that having sex with a foreigner was even better than a vacation, but I think the stakes are raised once you move past "random sex whilst on vacation in Mazatlan" to "I'm going to marry someone that I met while backpacking through Central America". I'm enough of a romantic (hey, there's a reason why I work for a dating review site) to believe in love at first sight, love knows no bounds, blah blah blah. However, when falling in love with someone from another part of the world, it helps to keep in mind that some guys are just dogs, no matter what language they speak. Just because someone is a fantastic flirt doesn't mean they've got a heart made of gold.
Of course, in the case of my wannabe Cuban friend, she has a highly developed BS detector and she speaks Spanish fairly well. It IS amazing to see how saying "I love you" in a different language can melt someone's heart. Let's face it, English is a useful, almost universal language, but it sounds pretty fugly when compared with French or Spanish. If someone was kissing you, would you like to hear "J'etaime" or "I love you, baby" whispered in your ear?
Like I've mentioned before, caution is definitely an advantage sometimes, particularly when you're on the road. Yesterday's hot Latin lover may turn out to be another guy who can't pay the rent at the end of the day.
Posted by Glen at June 26, 2007 2:14 AM
