Cupids Dating Blog

However, despite not wanting to garner the advances of all and sundry, they should be wondering why their behavior seems to have such an affect on other people. We've all been somewhere and seen someone, usually a dude, hitting on everyone in the club, or even hearing that someone is doing the same thing on an online dating site. Many fellows figure that if you try enough times, eventually you'll get lucky.

It's a romantic thought, which should leave anyone with whom said chaps do achieve some level of success feeling especially special and blessed not to have been unique enough to attract them, but weak enough not to say no. That to me is the number one issue all people who complain about having to deal with the Saturday night wackos have most in common. They simply never say no, please leave me alone.

In fact, not only do they not tell someone to step off, but also they actually send completely mixed signals by trying to be too polite. They smile awkwardly, look down embarrassedly and stammer polite-sounding excuses for turning down an offered drink, or reply with modest sounding denials of overwrought compliments given.

That individual may think that they're sending a clear, albeit gentle message, such I'm not interested, but I don't want to be too direct as I may hurt your feelings. Instead, whether it's a man, or a woman, that indecisiveness simply comes across as adorably coy and vulnerable. It says I'm shy but hot to go, not I need my space.

Being deceptively kind to someone in order to spare his, or her feelings, isn't even respectful of another individual's objective value as a human being, which should far outweigh any subjective rejection felt by explaining the signs of flirting were misinterpreted. Besides, those who can't take the heat, shouldn't shove their way into the kitchen like a bull in a china shop and all is fair in love and war to mix my cliche that much more.