Cupids Dating Blog

I think it goes without saying that the shyer people will have more difficulty meeting people, establishing contacts etc, and it's not like those things can be taught easily. Introversion and extroversion are a couple of personality features that are pretty hard-wired into someone's outlook, although they're by no means carved in stone. Still, it's difficult for an extrovert to come up with a set list of Things To Do When Meeting People that will accepted by the introverts. Not that there isn't a market for that kind of wisdom - God knows there's a ton of guides available which can teach you how to improve your chances, make the right impression. It's all a question of whether the introvert will accept and use the advice (assuming that the advice is worthwhile). You can lead a horse to water, you can teach people how to pick up a girl, but ultimately it's up to Mr/Ms. Shy to take the initiative.

Of course, all of the advice in the world isn't going to help a doomed situation. The introvert will have to look for signs of flirting in order to get an idea whether or not risking his/her ego is worth it. Sometimes coyness exists to prevent us from making blind fools out of ourselves, as tempting as it is to hit on anything with a pulse. What's best is a mixture of outgoing confidence as well as enough caution and realism to prevent the would-be love machine from going out of control. It's called calculated risk, and it works for dating just like it works when you're betting at the racetrack.