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November 27, 2006
So You're Writing An Online Dating Profile
I tend to go on about how online dating is a numbers game here at Cupids Reviews. The more you see, the more chance of finding that perfect connection. Likewise, the more people that see you, the better your chances at scoring the man or woman of your dreams. The number of profile views aside, there are other things that can help your piece of digital real estate stand out from others, but none is as powerful as that of positive words.
Negativity is a horrible cross to carry around with you. Okay, I suppose any cross would be a bit of a pain, but negativity weighs more. Trust me. Think of that relative that is always droning on about how bad they have it. How many family gatherings did it take you to figure out that they weren’t the one you wanted to sit beside during dinner? Anything you say or do in life is contagious. If you bring a dark cloud wherever you go, those who are near you will be forced to wear their rain suits, and nylon is not one of the more luxurious fabrics ever created. Crafting a negative profile has the same effect. If people are drawn to it, they don’t have true romance on their mind. It may attract those who are looking to save someone but that’s not the love that the best romances are made of.
Wherever the happy people are in the room, that’s where I want to be! These people are the life of the party, the light in the darkness, the ones that spread joy just by being near them. These are the people that others seek out. They get added to more favorites lists, get smiled at more and get the most chances at going out on Saturday nights. If you’re looking for love online, you need write a positive profile that stops people in their tracks and makes them pay attention. This starts from the time you pick your dating profile name and write a profile title untill you finish the process of writing your online dating profile.
If you can craft a sunny version of yourself in digital form, I guarantee you’ll get more romantic interest online. And if that happens to fail, you can always try and take off your shirt. Sex is the only thing that gets more attention than positive profiles online. I’m just not sure you’ll find quality in that that kind of quantity.
Posted by CupidsReviews Doug at November 27, 2006 10:00 AM
Comments
Bit frustrated about this dating on line,I am finding it difficult and a bit demoralising. I am unsure of the motives and sincerity of the majority I have ATTEMPTED to contact. I was very upbeat and positive in the begining,I picked the site (DD) sat at the computer,registered,sent my photo,s in, did a good profile, sent 17 Emails most I believe were not full members, which obviosly wastes the senders time,yea but so what.
I am a possitive outgoing person and confident considered good looking(sounds like a profile) Yet it was like pulling teeth,I realise there is lots of nutters out there (Male & Female) but lighten up a bit, not everone is a murdering rapist. just be considerate,no wonder it is so hard with the abrasive atitudes of some, must have been hurt very badly and have stopped trusting, maybe I am being niave and expect everyone to be like me. So what do I do?
Well I carry on waiting and waiting til that day a miracle happens and someone responds thats warm,loving, sympathetic, tollarant,humourous,tactile,who I can look in thier eyes and feel love, when they walk in the room my heart jumps, when I hear thier voice I melt,can hold thier hand and nothing else matters.
I just want to love and be loved and not ashamed to say it, AM I STUPID??????????
Posted by: Alan Walker at November 27, 2006 12:09 PM
I am 58 man, divorced 5 years was never in love EVER, I know this because 3 years ago I met someone and it happened, but this isnt why I,m writing in(maybe I'll say next time about my experience) What I want to know is, because this experience hit me like an express train out of control, and left me shell shocked when it ended. WHAT Physcally happens(ANY PHSYCHIATRISTS} I had physical pain,couldn't eat,couldn't sleep,lost a stone, uncontrolable crying,grief,in a black hole.each day was a nightmare, then took two years to feel fairly normal again, All I could compare it with is being in a very bad hurrican and having to wait for it to subside???
Posted by: Alan Walker at November 27, 2006 12:32 PM
Hey Alan,
I can't really speak to how physical pain would manifest itself after a breakup, but I'm a firm believer that our mental outlooks and our feelings do affect both our bodies and what's going on around us. If you feel pain from a loss, it doesn't sound like a big stretch to assume you could feel it physically.
When it comes to dating sites, you can get around the problem of people not emailing you back by picking dating sites that require only one person to pay. That's part of our criteria on CupidsReviews.com. Just take a look for sites that score 15 under the criterion of "Contact." Those sites that only require one person to pay get 15 points, all others get zero.
We're all in this together. Love should be something we all get to experience at least once. You're lucky that you have tasted it, even if it slipped away. ;)
Posted by: Tyric at November 28, 2006 12:10 PM
Well, a loss is always pain and it's natural that you feel it phisically. May be it's more painful when your beloved doesn't feel the same.
There a case when your pertner dies and you're alone with your feelings but you know that you had a that love and were together.
There's a situation when you are able to see a person every day and have already told about your feelings but there's no answer. No reaction. The one doesn't care about you. This hurts and I had that once, very painful. That's evident that I won't need that onca again... Who knows may be noone will ask me)
Posted by: Dating Software consultant at November 30, 2006 4:10 AM
