Cupids Dating Blog

I think that a lot of people spend time dating the "wrong" people when they're younger, including myself, for the same reasons that you've listed in this entry; loneliness is a big factor for most people, I believe, as well... but I think it was a necessary evil in order for me to figure out what I was looking for. I know better now.

I think we may have talked about this before, but I've been single since the end of 2004 and, during these months, I have experienced the biggest spiritual growth spurt I've ever had. I enjoy my alone time much, much more than I ever thought I would, almost to a fault. Earlier this year, I lost contact with a number of people (mainly men, admittedly) because I felt like my independence was being threatened... not that anyone could have forced me to do anything, of course... it's hard to explain, do you know know what I mean? I am now at a place where I feel that my 'self' can not be swayed so easily and have been emerging from my shell over these last couple of months as a result, experimenting with my newfound learnings and whatnot...

Oops, sorry, guess this is fodder for my own blog, lol! I always end up doing this on xanga, too. D'oh!

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Well, Miss Leigh, it sounds like you are moving in the right direction! That makes me smile. And you should link to your blog from your posts, dahling, so we can travel there when we want!

I believe in soulmates. I was 15 years old when I found mine. Sophomore year, first day of school in English class there was a guy who for some reason I couldn't take my eyes off of and he the same with me. We became close friends, both of us had a "significant other." Throughout high school, we stayed close, even though our other halfs hated it. Our Senior year we were both finally free! We went out for about 3 months and it was so wonderful. My ex-boyfriend called him and told him we were back together....we were not. I waited for him one night and he told me that he was seeing someone else. I watched him walk away from me and never saw him again until 2000 (our 20 year reunion). We had the opportunity to slip away from our spouses and talk. That is when I had found out what my ex had said to him and he found out why I left him walk away. Because we were young and naive we let our opportunity slip away. We are both married (to other people), we both have a daugher and a son now. Neither of us are what you would consider "happy." We have emailed and spoke on the phone to each other over the last 6 years. We tell each other "I love you" because we do. However, we have separate lives with families and neither of us are the type to shake our responsibilities. We both wonder "what could have been" all the time. I think about him every day. I have for the last 27 years. We know we should have been together. We live with regret every day.

Hey Joy... I have to say, reading that caused my emotions to go in both directions at the same time. It's such a sad tale but there is also so much happiness in that you still get to share such a special connection. I hope you don't mind if I secretly pray that the two of you get a chance to connect again down the line. If you do, I'd love to hear about it...

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I been so lonely every time I get a date the guy treat me like a dog they hit me kicked and beat me up...that why I gave up trying to find a nice handsome guy would love me as I am. I live all by myself and I enjoy it one hundred percent. But I sell tickets at the bingo hall in ohio. I am 5'7 blue eyes brown hair and slend about 171.5 pounds. I love my computer I play games on it and do my paprework I volunteer cleaning apartments,where I live, I go to movies,shopping, walking, jogging, biking, read my bibles, and I help my parents out because they are in their ages. I wish someone will write to me or send me and email to me.

Sherry, I hate to say this but I think I know why the guys you date end up treating you rough. Honey, your post here itself shows how needy you can get. No nice guys wants a girl who is clingy. The only guys who want girls like that are those with very low self esteems themselves..and its makes them feel good that they are with someone who has a lower self esteem than them. You seem to have a nice set of hobbies and you're the nice kinda girl who cares about her parents...Just wait for the right man to come along and im pretty sure one will...but you gotta give it time adn in the meanwhile concentrate on a makeover for your self...take some dancing classes, somethign to make you feel lively and where you can meet the kind of people who just want plain clean fun....i mean how lonely is plaing on the comp all the time and walking jogging and biking! Good luck to ya sweetheart..