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Nevertheless, it seems new age quackery to me that the voyage to self-discovery will make me blissfully aware of how wonderful my true self really is. Not to knock spirituality but as "divine" as I might be, (snap, snap, with hand held on swiveling hip) I'm never going to be deity material.

I might actually be a real jerk deep down inside and too much navel gazing makes me personally lose sight of the big picture besides giving me cranky bouts of vertigo. Bette Midler was right when she sang, "From a distance the world looks blue and green."

Not just in a good-looking from far, far from good-looking, way, although some mornings it's better not to stand too close to the bathroom mirror. I mean I need greater perspective when I deal with other people than when alone. The most damaging advice ever given to me, regardless of best intentions, whether preparing for a job interview, a social event or a blind date is, "just be yourself."

As an example, Brent Turnbull's MSN Lifestyle article, "10 Things They Shouldn't Know" says in the section headlined as "I'm Really Insecure About…" - "Keep it to yourself. Like it or not, women like confidence in a man and admitting to this kind of worry will either seem insecure or untrusting. For men, it is just downright annoying to hear these kinds of worries and, truthfully, they may take it as a sign of ‘high maintenance’ tendencies.”

I might be a fabulous person but I have tons of foibles, faults and follies. Those past experiences and ongoing issues may be intrinsic to how I became the beautiful person I am but in reality some of those secrets that make me, me and you, you are best left shared on our fiftieth anniversary rather than our first date.