Cupids Dating Blog

I'm staying positive about the break up and I have to give myself credit, I'm pretty rational, too. Then again, I have the benefit of being the one who will be breaking it off. The bottom line is that I'm simply happier when I've got a day to myself, and I find myself taking more and more personal time away from my man as the weeks go by.

This has given me a lot of space to think. I say 'space' because that's what I feel. It's like I'm in a lush open field rather than a crapped supply closet with heavy objects crowded above my head just waiting to fall.

It's important to consider partnerships that aren't working because realizing what you don't want helps you better define what you do want. In my case, I'm still in the thick of things. I don't have all the answers. I'm spending a lot of time reading articles about break ups, like the one we have titled Breaking Up: A Better Way to Break It Off.

Despite my insecurity, I take pride in the fact that I recognize my relationship isn't working and more so that I'm taking charge and doing something about it. I can separate my strong feelings for him from the logistical reality that we're not compatible. In my particular case, the give and take isn't balancing (not even close) and that's why I'm not happy. What I'm trying to say is that no matter what you're relationship status is, it's crucial to believe in yourself and do what's right. No one is going to solve your problems except for you. A self help relationship means you help yourself.

Writing to all you single people out there, I realize that sometimes you look at couples in hard times and think, "well, at least you're with someone." Understand that you, too, have certain needs and wants. It's difficult to be alone. Loneliness can make people desperate, but you should only be in a relationship that makes you happier than when you're alone, not the other way around.