Cupids Dating Blog

A couple years ago I dated an incredibly gorgeous woman named Karen. I met her through an online dating service. We had been dating for a couple months, and had become kind of serious before I found out that she hadn't been completely honest with me. It wasn't that she was a serial killer or anything. It was just that, for whatever reason, she decided not to tell me that she had been divorced twice. Like I said, it's not the worst thing in the world. I myself am divorced. When she told me, I had to ask myself: can this relationship be saved? I wasn't too sure at first, this withheld information had made me somewhat uncomfortable. I decided to break it off with her because I couldn't help feeling that she may have been hiding something else. She may not have been, but given how important honesty is to me, I just couldn't let it go.

Knowledge is the key to understanding, or so they say. I know it takes a little while for people to open up to others and you never usually really get to know someone for a good long while. On the first few dates you never really get to know a person, you're usually just meeting their 'representative'. We've all had experiences that make us afraid of opening up, but it's when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable that we're able to open ourselves up to the most wonderful experiences.

I'm not perfect in any way, but I always try to be honest about who I am, what I've done and where I'm going in life when I'm dating someone new. That way we can both get a better sense of whether or not we want to pursue a relationship or just move on.